May 18, 2024

HOW do I Homeschool?

The answers to this question are infinite. There are hundreds of ways to educate your children at  home! Curriculum companies and learning resources now abound, unlike the days when the idea of home education was foreign to most parents and educators alike. Today I will tell you just a bit about how we have approached homeschooling in our family.

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A View of Homeschooling in my Family

When our family began our homeschooling journey, we were still in a very schoolish place. We were coming straight out of a private school and I expected to do school at home. I did not have anyone telling me that it could or should look any differently. So I began my search for appropriate curriculum for my children on the internet. I ended up going with a workbook type of program for my son and a Charlotte Mason, kind of a *unit study program, for my daughter.

*Click on the link for a thorough explanation of the term unit study, but this is basically studying a particular topic or time period for a specified amount of time before moving on to a different topic or time period.

“A good unit study involves learning about one topic in an interesting and engaging way that will captivate the student and make them want to learn more and continue to think about the things that they are learning.” ~Amanda Bennett

Neither I nor my son enjoyed the workbooks. I did not like the separation that it created and he didn’t either. We both felt that he was missing out on what was happening with my daughter and I. We loved the unit study! I learned alongside my daughter and I was able to see the world that opened up to her through learning to read and in being read to daily by me.

By the end of our first year of homeschooling I knew that we were not a workbook family.

We ended up using another unit study curriculum with both children the following year, and I actually included our youngest child when possible, too. It was a wonderful year! It involved a lot of work, and our home still seemed like a school many days, but we all relished our afternoon reading and Q & A times. There were days when I would choke up from the stories I was reading aloud to them, and I was so proud of my children for their participation. We all learned so much that year!

It was a time of growth for me in particular, as we had moved that year and were living  in an area where we knew absolutely no one. Our reliance on God grew. I was also learning more about what homeschooling could be. Many families love and thrive with school-at-home methods. That is wonderful! For us, it did not work well. It simply was not what I desired for my family, nor did I feel it was what God was calling me to. Near the end of my first year of homeschooling I had acquired a few booklets from Lifestyle of Learning. Little did I know it at the time, but the words within those pages would spark a change in my thinking that has grown and changed over the last 7 years. My thoughts about education are very different from what they were when I first began this journey. And God is still changing me as we continue.

Though we are not a ‘workbook’ family, that is not to say that we never use workbooks or textbooks. We have, and do. It really depends on the child, the season of our lives, and the topic about which we are trying to learn. For example, we moved and added two babies to our family between March of 2009 and October of 2010.  During that time my children did a lot of learning on their own, and used several textbooks to facilitate their learning. I didn’t even always keep up with the grading. You want to know what happened? They still excelled on their end-of-year tests! Big surprise. I can say that now, as I am more ‘seasoned’, but in the earlier years of this journey those were things that I worried about. They are valid concerns to new homechooling parents. I want to encourage you that your children are learning, even on the days when it may not seem that way. There are a multitude of ways to learn and things to learn about. Most of them are not even learned sitting at  desk listening to a lecture! So when you have a day, or even several, that you think “all is lost” and that you need to make it up, do not despair. God redeems the time!

Our family is living proof.

Now that we are entering our 8th year of homeschooling, we are planning and preparing a bit differently for our homeschooling year than we did in years past. For the first time, I asked my children what they wanted to learn about and actually ordered resources based on their answers! We will be watching dvd’s as part of our family learning this year. The topics are as varied as cooking, crafting a great sentence, and nutrition. My older three children are taking art classes each Friday at the local homeschool co-op; my younger daughters will tag along and learn to be patient while we wait on their siblings. My children will also meet new friends, play games, help prepare lunches, take care of younger siblings, continue to help maintain our home, enjoy movies and video games, utilize apps on the iPad, write posts for their own blogs, and participate in field trips and park days planned by one of the other homeschool groups in which we are involved. This is all a part of learning!

It is how we homeschool.

Next week  I will share a bit about various homeschooling methods, curriculum, and other useful resources. I hope you will join me to learn more about HOW to homeschool with Homeschooling Methods, Curriculum, and Resources.

Why would ANYONE choose to homeschool?

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Why We Homeschool

When we began homeschooling, it was because our daughter was experiencing some vision problems, which had resulted in reading issues that we felt could be better addressed in a one-on-one situation.  The bigger reason was because God kept speaking to me with the following verses:

Deuteronomy 6:4-9 Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.  Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

We continue to homeschool because God has not led us to make any other decision. We do pray about it often. We have also come to realize that homeschooling allows us to

  • work at our own pace
  • travel
  • know one another and extended family members
  • to cater to our special needs child and the allergies of some of our children
  • to allow our two oldest children to pursue their interests of drawing, photography, and writing

We see no reason to stop homeschooling now, outside of God calling us to do so. We are totally sold on this way of life!

Why Others Homeschool

There are many other compelling reasons to choose homeschooling over public or private schools.

  • Your child has special needs, such as food allergies, giftedness, learning delays, or a diagnosis such as Autism or Sensory Processing Disorder. While many children living with the above challenges do attend public or private school, families are increasingly choosing homeschooling as the best educational choice for them!
  • You feel called by God to homeschool. I can attest to the fact that obedience is the best choice when you hear God speaking to you. And though the road may not be an easy one, He will travel with you the entire journey!
  • Your family desires to travel and the ‘traditional’ school schedule would inhibit your freedom to do so. Many families have taken time to travel the country or even the world, learning through life as they explore their immediate surroundings. What better way to learn than through complete immersion in a culture and its foods, history, and people!
  • Your child has a deep passion for a specific sport or artistic pursuit. Homeschooling will allow your child to immerse herself in that pursuit in a way that traditional schooling will not.
  • You desire to spend more time with your children. There is nothing quite like being home with your family all day. Yes, there are difficulties, but the rewards far outweigh them in my opinion! My youngest children know their older siblings in a way that they would not if my older children were heading off to school each day. I find much joy in the delight on my little girls’ faces as they greet their siblings each day.
  • You or another family member suffers from an illness. Homeschooling could be an option for you, as well. Many families still homeschool even they have been diagnosed with cancer, heart disease, or some other life-threatening ailment.

Why do YOU Homeschool?

There are likely even more reasons families choose to homeschool.  What is your reason? Will you share it with us in the comments below?

Please join me again next week for my post,  HOW do I Homeschool?

What IS homeschooling, anyway?

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Now that you know my story, and how our family came to homeschooling, you may be asking yourself this question.

What IS homeschooling, anyway?

Trust me, anyone who has ever considered taking this faith leap has asked themselves that question! The answer can be simple or quite complicated, and it depends on many things.

Are you new to homeschooling?

How many children are you homeschooling?

In which state are you living?

Is this a permanent decision, year-by-year, or definitely temporary?

What is your teaching and learning style?

What is your child’s learning style?

Does your child have a great interest in a certain topic or activity?

The definition

Are you ready for the basic, simple definition of homeschooling?

Homeschooling is the educating of a child by his or her parents.

Ready for the more complicated answer?

Homeschooling is:

Reading, baking, singing, playing, writing, building, creating, resting, thinking, gardening, swinging, digging, swimming, changing, committing, adjusting, listening, praying, following, obeying….to name just a few verbs. Notice how it is an active, living thing?

I posed this question in a couple Facebook groups of which I’m a part, as well. Below are some of the answers I received from mamas who are currently in the trenches of homeschooling!

“A learning lifestyle” ~ Inger from Hiding the Peas

taking personal responsibility for their [your child’s] educational outcome” ~ Amber from Adventure Hollow

“Living and learning WITH your children.” ~ Heather from Upside Down Homeschooling

“We think of homeschooling as learning together as a family, doing our best to equip and prepare our children for what God calls them to in career, family, and Great Commission.” ~ Tauna Meyer from Proverbial Homemaker

“Homeschooling is a lifestyle. It is not school at home, but rather a way we choose to live our life.” ~ Stephanie from Multi Taskin’ Mom

It is simply choosing to raise our children ourselves.” Cindy from Get Along Home

“It’s doing life together! Pouring the love of Jesus into them every moment and making him the center of all we do! “~ Jennifer from Godly Glimpses

“Homeschooling is the gift of nurturing relationships with your children, crafting learning opportunities to meet their needs, and blending life and learning together. ~ Anne from learning table

An opportunity for parents to be at the helm of providing intellectual, moral, social and spiritual instruction to their children by choosing to guide them through learning outside of traditional public, private and charter schools. ~ Martianne from Training Happy Hearts

“Homeschooling is about discipling our children the same way Jesus discipled his apostles — by being with them every day, talking with them, teaching, training, and setting the example.” ~ Marcy from Ben and Me

Here are some quotes from a few unschoolers, too:

“….my definition of homeschooling has grown over the years. I believe it is the original design for families. Children learn naturally from their parents through daily interaction, guidance, participation in the community in meaningful ways, and working through issues.” ~ Aadel from These Temporary Tents

“For our family, homeschooling is not defined as what we do. It’s just that we keep our kids home from school. I actually had a “Yes!” moment recently as I was flipping through David Guterson’s “Family Matters” and that he had written something very similar to the above sentiment. I had finally found something that made sense. What unites all homeschoolers, regardless of their educational philosophy, is that they have traded in the ideal of public education to keep their kids home and to educate them in a way that seems natural and makes sense to them. Homeschooling is about choosing something different for your family.” ~ Rebecca from Raven Threads

“I believe that parents owe it to our children to step out of that world and seek first, God and then seek freedom. Freedom to think for themselves without fear of rejection, freedom to learn the world outside the textbooks, freedom to feel the world…not just read about it. Freedom to become discovers again! ~ Margret

Tabitha, over at Meet Penny, also helped me out by polling her readers. Here are some of the answers she received:

“A method of educating the whole child.”

“Homeschooling is a lifestyle.”

“Homeschooling is providing my children with the best education I can for them to become happy, intelligent adults.”

“I am heart-schooling!”

Personally, I love that last one.

I may need to begin describing our homeschool that way. After all, it is the reason I began homeschooling. To capture their hearts, direct them toward Him!

Did these quotes give you a good picture of what homeschooling is? Of what it can be?

I look forward to digging deeper next week with Why would ANYONE choose to homeschool? I hope you’ll join me!

 

 

Answering the Call to Homeschool

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Homeschooling was never on my radar. When our first child was about 15 months old, my husband graduated from college and we moved south to central Florida. We soon found a wonderful church where we became heavily involved. We loved it there! We were making close friends, I was serving in the children’s ministry, and together we took some of the marriage classes offered, to grow closer to God and to one another as a couple.

The church had a preschool and was also starting an elementary school. My ‘plan’ was to send my kids to preschool and elementary school there, and to eventually teach there myself. When my oldest was 3 years old, he entered the preschool program. My daughter was only 2 years younger and soon followed. By the time we had added our third child to the family, my son was entering kindergarten and we were wondering how we would afford private school for three children!

We decided to try public school. That lasted all of about 6 weeks, due to an illness in the family which required travel. My son was “missing too much school” and we were told he would fail the year if he missed more than 9 days in a semester. We decided to try homeschooling for the first time. Although it was going well, and I enjoyed teaching my children at home, it was not a permanent decision. By the beginning of the second semester, we had found a way to cut costs enough to swing tuition, and we re-enrolled our son and daughter in private school.

I began volunteering at the school because I wanted to be involved and be ‘in the know’ about school happenings. As my children learned and grew, we became ensconced in the school setting. We made great friends, participated in field trips, and generally enjoyed our time there. I missed my children, but kept busy with my baby and enjoyed our time together when they were home. As they each moved into their next grades, I found a sitter for my youngest and was able to spend even more time at the school. I was the ‘Friday Folder’ mom in my son’s 1st grade class. I saw what they were working on each week, listened to the teacher as she taught various lessons, and sometimes I graded papers. I even began walking with my son’s teacher some evenings because we lived near one another, and it was a great time of fellowship for me!

The end of the year came and went, and we were well into summer when there were rumblings about a temporary move. We were not sure if we should all move or if my husband should go alone, but eventually came to the decision to take everyone. Thus began our second, and very short, stint in the homeschooling world. With a 2nd grader, kindergartener, and 2.5 year old, I found it difficult to ‘do school’ and keep everyone happy. After 4 short weeks, I threw in the towel and put the kids in the neighborhood public school. Their time there ended up being very short as well, as the company shut down the program my husband was working on and our family headed back to Florida after just 9 weeks away!

Working My Plan

There were openings in the children’s grades, as well as an opening for a preschool teacher’s aide and an after-care worker, at the private school where our kids had been enrolled before. I accepted both. My dream to teach was about to come true! We began school just after Thanksgiving that year. My children were at the school from 8 a.m. to 6 p.m. every day. I had found a daycare for my youngest son and I had also enrolled in college classes. I was preparing to get the teaching degree that I had always wanted.

We were all very busy and actually not very happy. My husband was the one to pick up my youngest from the sitter and he also often began dinner preparations. What a blessing he was! Still, that was not his role, it was mine. By February, I knew things weren’t working. We held a family meeting and decided that I would stick the year out with my teaching and classes but that the next year I would be done at 3 p.m. when my children were. I was thrilled with our plan, and I even had a real teaching job lined up for the following school year. I would teach 3 year olds from 8 to 12 and be able to pick up my kiddos  at 3 p.m., just as I had promised!

Surrendering My Plan to God

Over the summer I continued to take classes and left my children in daycare. I still didn’t get it, and God began to whisper to me:

How do you feel about missing your son perform during his Christmas play,  and for Mother’s Day? Shouldn’t you be teaching him?

He also brought to mind the verses from Deuteronomy 6: 4-9, and I wondered, how will I teach him if I am not with him?

We had also learned that our daughter had a vision problem and could not read, a requirement for the first grade environment. She would need more help than would be available. These two things caused me to consider homeschooling yet again.

It was a hard sell to my husband. I promised to stick out the entire year, even if I hated it. He hesitantly agreed. It was tough, but I knew that this time I had heard a clear call from God to do this. That is what made the difference! I have had to surrender some dreams, but answering the call to homeschool has given me new dreams, far and above anything I could have dreamed up on my own. We are entering our 8th year of homeschooling and I wouldn’t trade it for the world!

Please be sure to join me again next week, when I will answer the question: What IS homeschooling, anyway?

Blessings,

Wendy