Today, I want to introduce you to Carissa Markantone. Carissa will be blogging for you every Thursday, for our Singles Ministry. I am extremely excited to have Carissa join us! — Christi Wilson
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He asked. She said yes. But in the back of her mind, something wasn’t right. To be honest, something wasn’t right way before he asked. But she ignored it. After all, she’d seen his progress. He was actually going to church now, he was leading prayer before each meal, he was reading his Bible on a … weekly basis. That has to count for something, right? She’d convinced herself that his “progress” was good enough. Good enough to put a ring on it.
Three weeks later, she took the ring off. And with tears streaming down her face, she gave it back. Oh, and did I tell you? That woman…was me.
I’d love to tell you that since then, I’ve changed my ways. I’d love to tell you that I haven’t been out on a date with a non-believer or lukewarm Christian ever since my broken engagement. But I can’t because that would be a lie. As our authors point out, I’ve definitely justified a date or two “in the guise of being a witness for Jesus.”
When you think of a missionary dater, what does she look like? My imagination runs wild with some Bible-banging woman speaking about Jesus with every other sentence. In reality, this isn’t the case. Missionary dating looks just like normal dating. I think of Mary Poppins and her “spoonful of sugar.” What does Ms. Poppins do when the children don’t want to take their yucky medicine? Why, she simply adds a spoonful of sugar! What does the missionary dater do when her man doesn’t want to include Jesus in his life? When he doesn’t want to pray, read his Bible, or go to church? Why, she simply adds romance (the spoonful of sugar) to help that yucky medicine go down!
Have you ever caught yourself justifying a relationship or a date that wasn’t God-centered as I have? Missionary dating begins as a condition of the heart. We’ve discussed motives a lot in this study, but the missionary dating motive is a dangerous one because it intertwines both emotional and spiritual intimacy with someone of the opposite sex. Once those intimate bonds are formed, they are hard to break. In fact, only God can break them. So avoid creating those bonds with non-believers or even those with superficial faith. If a man isn’t encouraging you to grow and isn’t challenging you in your own walk with the Lord, then he isn’t God’s best! Proverbs 4:23. Guard your hearts, ladies!
“You must set a higher standard and resist dating a guy who is not growing in his intimacy with Christ.”
So what does “growing in his intimacy with Christ” look like? I’d like to draw on the commonly quoted distinction –it’s more than religion; it’s a relationship. Relationships require a desire for commitment, a devotion of time, and a consistent communication. Does the man you’re interested in display these characteristics? Did he prior to meeting you? Ladies, it’s more than attending church every week. It’s more than saying a prayer before each meal. And it’s certainly more than a coerced time spent with God every week. He must want God. He must want God more than he wants you. Wow, that’s powerful. He must want a relationship with Jesus more than he wants a relationship with you.
Regardless of your relationship status right now, let’s meditate on Ephesians 6:18: “And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.” (NIV) So, ladies, pray in the Spirit. Submit your hearts and minds to the direction and leading of the Holy Spirit, and then pray in His power. Let Him lead you, and listen to Him and only Him. Put aside your good intentions, and let God take the reins.
God bless,
Carissa
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Let’s Pray:
Father God, we thank you for Your awesome power. Father, that You and only You have the power to change the hearts of men. Help us surrender our own will and our good intentions to You. Father, give us patience for Your timing, trust in Your plans, and hope for the future You have in store for us. While we wait, Father, let us live for You and You alone. Let us be a light to a lost world by living for You each day. Thank you, Jesus, for your unfailing love and grace. In your Holy Name we pray, Amen.
Your Assignment:
These questions are loaded, so be prepared!
What is the problem with dating guys who are good, but who are not Christians? What is the difference between a good man who goes to church and a growing Christian man? What difference would it make in marriage?
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For the “Lady in Waiting” Bible Study, you will need the book, your Bible, pen or pencil, a highlighter and a quiet place. You can order the book right through our website by clicking the “sign-up here” button at the top of our webpage, which is also where you can sign up to participate in this awesome bible study!
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Carissa Markantone joins us from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania where she’s lived nearly all of her 25 years.
Carissa was saved at the age of 5, but recently rededicated her life to Christ a little more than a year ago. She has a huge heart for serving others, especially children with terminal illnesses.
Carissa desires to live every day for her King, striving for more of Him and less of her with each waking day. Outside of her analyst duties at a major sporting goods retailer, Carissa enjoys spending her time with friends and family, reading, writing, working out, and singing praises to her Savior at the top of her lungs (the neighbors haven’t complained…yet)!
Carissa desires for every woman to know her worth through the eyes of God. Her motto for 2012 (which will definitely carry to 2013) is “get comfortable with the uncomfortable.” God doesn’t call us to an easy life. Living for Him is hard, but it will be so worth it once we get Home!
Girlfriends Coffee Hour is very excited to add Carissa to our Singles blogging team!. She has been an active participant in our Singles Ministry, and has been such a joy! God is doing great things in her life!
