There was a time when I thought I had the best friends a girl could ask for. We vowed to each other that we would be friends forever no matter what happened. At the time, I could not imagine my life without those girls. We loved each other so incredibly much. I truly believed that we really would all be friends forever. Then came the day when they stopped talking to me. This was so devastating and frustrating. I remember crying myself to sleep many nights. I just could not put together why they were doing this to me.
So, I dried my tears and turned to God. Because of how much I valued my relationships with those girls, I had completely forgotten that God had already chosen me to be His friend. “You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit—fruit that will last. Then the Father will give you whatever you ask for in my name.” John 15:16 God had taken all of those best friends out of my life just in time, before I was negatively influenced. You see those friendships were not with Christians who were encouraging my walk with the Lord or joining me in bearing fruit. If I would have continued to be friends with them, the fruit produced by those relationships would be deadly to me and others. God saved me from the dangers of close friendships with non-Christians.
Think about your friendships, what kinds of fruit are they producing? There is a difference between being friendly to non-Christians and being friends with non-Christians. We are called to love others, we are just not supposed to get caught up in relationships with others that are not encouraging us in our most important relationship in our life, the one we have with God.
When I turned to God years ago, in the midst of my tears, God so gently spoke to me and this is what I heard: I love you and call you to love others. You have a friend in me, I will never leave you, I am here for you, you can trust me, and I will never hurt you. I am by your side always. I am your best friend forever.
I never considered God a friend up until that day. There is no doubt that God is our best friend. “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24 Let it be out heart’s desire to find that friend and in return be that friend. Thankfully, we have Christ as a perfect example of how to be that friend described in Proverbs, simply because Jesus is that friend to each and every one of us. If you are struggling with finding a lasting friendship, ask Jesus to bring one into your life. As your best friend, I guarantee that He will; after all He has enough of them to introduce you to!
I never thought I would have good friendships with godly women. God cares enough about you and me to give us the desires of our hearts. He knew I needed Christian friends so he provided me with some of the absolute best! These women are answers to prayer and I am so thankful for them. Together, we take on this world with God’s hands in ours. We serve others, we love others, we fellowship, and we do it all together, with our best friend forever, God!
LET’S PRAY: Dear Jesus, thank you for being our best friend. Thank you that we can always turn to you for anything and you will be there, patiently waiting to hear from us. I pray for the girls that need Christian friendships in their lives. I ask that you bring godly friendships into their lives. I pray that we all grow in our friendships together in our discussion groups. Thank you for these gifts from above: Godly friendships. We love you so much! Amen
You’ve Got a Friend in ME,
Love Diane
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Diane, this is exactly what happened to me, but thank God that through a previous OBS, I met my best friend.
Thank you for these beautiful words of wisdom.
wow, in a way it is nice to know that I was not the only one that this happened to! Thank you:) I am glad that God gave us new best friends and ones that will last!
Let's face it…. girls can be so mean! Let's vow to be difference makers in our friendships and be our best to the friends that God brings us!
YES!!! Definitely, so thankful for the friendships God brings us!
AMEN Megan!!!!
i love where your wrote, "…ask Jesus to bring one into your life. As your best friend, I guarantee that He will; after all He has enough of them to introduce you to!" it took me a very long time to come to a 'friendship' relationship with my Lord. He was oh-so-many things to me (and grateful i was!) but not 'friend.' now that is different! echoing your sweet prayer, diane, in Jesus' precious name, amen. <3
Yes, I love that part too Coleen. So thankful the Lord brings friends to our lives. I am so thankful that we never know if our earthly friendships will last but we can be positive that we have a lasting friendship with God:)
This post really spoke to me today. I am no longer in my teens, but I struggle with friendships in my 30's. I have been hurt by so many friends in my past. I have forgiven but I am very cautious at this season in my life and because of that I find myself alone most of the time. I long for true friendship , and pray about it often. I know that He will send people into my life that I need, but I just really need, in the flesh, a true Christian friend that will not abandon our friendship when it gets hard. Thank you for the perspective and the gentle remindert hat I am not alone in this. And that God sees me and hears my cries. Liz
Awe Liz, my heart goes out to you because I have been in that same spot. You truly are never alone. My gram always tells me if I ever get lonely to squeeze my right hand because God' is holding us by our right hand! It is a great thing to do to get rid of that alone feeling:) God will bring you amazing Christian friends, in the mean time spend time in your relationship with God!