Have you ever made decisions in life because they seem right at the time but when you look back you realize that it wasn’t the right thing to do? Well, I have and there are many times when I ask myself why I didn’t wait before making such drastic decisions. Why did I allow my emotions to get ahead of me? Why did I let the temporary feelings to determine my future? Why didn’t I seek the face of God before doing this? Why didn’t I wait?
Waiting for anything is hard, it’s even harder when you are single and you feel like you have limited options available to you. Some of us have made life altering decisions because we were tired of waiting for what seemed like forever. Loneliness crept in and we allowed FEAR get to the best of us.
We were afraid of being the odd ones out, the only one who is always the bridesmaid and never the bride, how many bouquets have we caught and believed the myth that the one who catches the bouquet is the next in line to get married? But year in and year out, we continue the journey as a single lady.
We were afraid to attend family functions where everyone has a partner by their side and a quiver full of kids. We don’t want to sit next to the nosy cousins who can’t help but taunt us at the dinner table with the following remarks: “this year we were looking forward to being introduced to the man in your life!” or “your nieces are worried that they are growing taller so they will no longer qualify as flowers girls at your wedding.”
As years passed by you asked yourself “when is it going to happen for me? Is Prince Charming going to notice me before the clock strikes 12? Sadly you didn’t have the answer to this question and the more you thought about it the fearful you became.
Fear has been defined as False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear can cause us to take matters into our own hands and forget God’s promises and fear can make us to accept the proposal of the first guy who comes along without taking into consideration if He is the right man.
You see, the right man won’t rush you to the altar. He will get to know you first and allow you to get to know him in the process. He will want to become your friend first before becoming your lover.
Girlfriend, I urge you, do not allow fear to control your decisions, give God back the control of your plans and future. He knows the desires of your heart. He loves you with an everlasting love and He is saying “Be still and know that I am God.” “I know the plans I have for you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Isaiah 40:31 tells us:
“But those who wait on the Lord
Shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.”
Have patience, beloved. Waiting may be hard but it is worth it in the end. This week let us be willing to learn how to boldly soar like the Eagle as we wait patiently upon the Lord regardless of our circumstances be it the ticking of the biological clock, the number of bridesmaids dresses in our closets, the statistics that are so depressing or what our beloved family thinks of us. Let us put everything in the capable hands of our Precious Father, “Our Daddy’s got this!”
LET’S PRAY
Precious Father, we come before you this week empty and waiting for you to fill us with your Holy Spirit. As we learn how to be Ladies of Patience, we ask you to help us because waiting is not easy; we admit that this is a struggle for most of us. However, we don’t want to hurry and go ahead of you because that is worse than waiting up you. Father, you know what is best for us; we are not single because you don’t love us but because you want what’s best for us. Teach us to content and wait upon you. In Jesus Name. Amen.
YOUR ASSIGNMENT
Write out the things that make you lose patience. Which of these cause your Sovereign God concern? Give these concerns to Him and ask Him to help you trust while you wait. “I will trust while I wait, for my God is never late” is a good motto.
Be Blessed
Jackie
Our Next Single Women’s Online Bible Study
“Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul”
by John & Stasi Eldgredge
Begins January 6, 2013
To sign up for this Online Bible Study, click HERE and follow the instructions. You will also be given a link to where you can purchase this bible study. We’re looking forward to studying “Captivating” with you!!
