Who’s your DADDY?????
Really….. I want to hear all about him.
Wether you have the world’s greatest earthly father or not, God entrusted you to him for a reason and I would love to know not only what he is like, but what your relationship with him is like.
My dad is a hoot!!! He’s a big old hot mess, but I don’t know anyone who doesn’t love him. Have you ever seen that movie “Big Fish” about the dad who tells the outlandish stories about his extraordinary life and drives his son crazy? Well, that’s MY dad…. but he doesn;t drive me crazy. I Love it and I know I learned how to communicate effectively with other people and how to have great relationships because of him and what an amazing “people person” he is. He has this incredible ability to make a new acquaintance feel like a long-lost best friend…. and it makes my heart happy to see it in action!
Growing up, my dad worked a lot. My mom would have dinner on the table when he got home from work. We would eat together then he would settle in his man-chair for the night and nap until he went to bed. We would sometimes do things together on the weekends, and I really enjoyed that a lot. Some of my best memories are with him at college basketball games or when he would hang out with my friends and I when I had some people over and he would tell them all his wild (TRUE) stories. My dad is a great man… but I never really went to him if I had a problem or needed help. I don’t know why I didn’t, but I always tried to handle everything on my own and really didn’t communicate much of anything about “me” to my parents unless I really HAD to.
I KNOW I brought this to my relationship with the Lord. I could bring the prayer requests of others to Him like nobody’s business, but I kept feeling God impress into my spirit the question: “What about you?”
YIKES….. I was the one that everyone always came to for help and guidance and I learned at a young age not to share my burdens with my friends because it would always freak them out a bit and they didn’t know what to do. So, I just began to stuff it all down and try to deal with everything on my own. This caused me to not let God into many deep dark places inside me for way too many years. Until I finally let Him in, I wasn’t able to truly live how He called me to and fulfill His purposes on this earth that He intended for me to do. He was begging for me to cry out to him on my own behalf…… he needed me to need Him….<3 And then He helped me heal.
You see, it was a trust issue…. and as Chan says on page 56 “God is more worthy of trust than anyone else, yet for so long I questioned His love and doubted His care and provision for me.”
Matthew 7:11
11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children,
how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!
People of this earth and even your earthly father will fail you…. but your Heavenly Father never will. We need to immediately stop putting earthly hang-ups on our Great Creator! He alone is perfect and His love never fails!
Let’s pray:
Lord, help us see the areas where we are putting flawed human traits onto You. Open our eyes to this, Lord, and help us repent. We want to give all of ourselves to YOU whole and complete! Heal us of our earthly relationship hurts so we can fully begin to understand the depth of your love for us. Help us to trust and give you everything. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen <3
Your Assignment:
What hurts or hang ups are you still hanging onto from your relationship with your earthly father that you need to stop putting on your relationship with God? We want to pray along with you for healing in this area <3
Blessings,
Megan 🙂
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Thinking of my dad and my Dad makes me smile!
YAY!!!!! 🙂
My dad passed away over 40 years ago, and I still think about him everyday of my life. Thankfully, I think about him with warm memories. He was a fun-loving person, but also was firm in discipline, but with kindness.
Wonderful, Martha <3 My dad has been in congestive heart failure for the past 6 years or so and I know he will not be here much longer….. God has been preparing my heart to say goodbye for now <3
I had a great dad. My brothers and I always knew he loved us dearly. We also had fun with him. He went through a rough patch in his personal life, and as a child I found that confusing because it didn't match who I knew him to be. Thankfully, his love for us kids and our love for him won out. He was renewed in Christ, and life only got better. I'm so thankful that my dad taught me about God's love for me that will never fail. I also know that God is perfect and will never disappoint me. I can trust Him always!
What an awesome gift your dad gave you, Clella <3 Makes my heart smile 🙂
I had a great dad. Growing up, he worked a ton and wasn't home much but when he was, he always made time for me regardless of how tired he was. He is one of the smartest and wisest people I've ever met and we have for the most part had a good relationship. When things have been tense between us, it has been because my mom had issues with me but I realize that he can choose to take my side over his wife. Oddly, I think that my great relationship with my earthly father may have kept me from having a deeper relationship with my Heavenly Father. It's pretty easy to not depend on God when earthly dad always has your back. Fortunately, I've grown and realized that my Heavenly Father loves me more than my dad ever could and will never leave me not forsake me!
That is an interesting perspective….. and does make sense. We do tend to only reach out to God when we NEED something right? So thankful for the intimate relationship you have grown to have with Him…… and that you have a strong relationship with your earthly father, too 🙂 <3
I havent always had a great relationship with my Dad. The teen years were especially rough. But I am happy to report that God has restored and completely healed our relationship today and we meet weekly for lunch. I am very thankful for the restoration in our relationship 🙂
Praise God for the restoration in your relationship. Kim! It makes all the difference, I know 🙂
My earthly dad was killed about 38 years ago when I was just 13. It was a really sad time because he was an amazing father who loved us and when we had something going in that needed attention he had a natural instinct to know. I am not sure what his last thoughts were or if he knew The Lord but my hope is that one day we will be together in heaven.
and I am sure he is smiling down seeing your life and knowing how much you love our Lord <3 two proud papas in heaven <3
human characteristics…they do seem to seep into our relationship with God at times. but we are such blessed children that our Father has made it clear and plain throughout the Scriptures the TRUTH of just Who He is. His love never fails, nothing can separate us from that love that He has given us in Jesus, He is not a man that He should lie, He is faithful—that's our Father! <3
AMEN coleen!!!! <3
Megan,
thank you so much for this today!! I know I'm going to have a hard time with this subject, growing up in an abusive home with a father who beat us from time to time. However, I have learned that that example is NOT what a Heavenly Father is at all! I was fortunate to meet my husband at an early age (10) and get to know what a real family was like. His family accepted me and taught me what real family love was all about. That taught me in turn that my Heavenly Father was even better!! I now have a relationship with my parents, having forgiven them for all those things long ago, but NOTHING is like the love of my Dear Heavenly Daddy!!!
I love how God always provides for whet we need when we are not getting it from where we maybe should be… He brought you the earthly example when you needed it and I am so thankful! Thankful for forgiveness and the awesome relationship with your Heavenly Father <3 Thank you for sharing this, Donna <3
My dad growing up isn't the man he is today. Growing up I longed for him to spend time with me and he always shut me out or was working so that meant he was never home. Even to do this day I feel like he sees me as a failure, a low life, a horrible mom who can't stand on her own two feet. As for me talking to him is out of the question because I can picture him laughing at me, mocking me, telling everyone he knows look at my failure of a daughter.
I know God doesn't see me this way and for many years it affected my relationship with God because I personally thought God saw me this way as well and was I ever so wrong. This study has been a major blessing in my life.
SO happy you are standing on God;s truths and KNOW that God sees you as His perfect creation <3 🙂 Love you, friend 🙂
I thought I posted earlier but I don't think the blog like my iDevice:) Anyway, I haven't spoken to my Dad in 22 years (I was 14). He is a harsh man and it's his way or no way (hence not speaking for so long). I am certain he loves me but he has no idea how to show it and even if he did that would show weakness and that's not allowed. I had some challenges when I was younger not having a relationship with him and acted way out because of it especially since my brothers lived with him and would fill me in on all the great family stuff that didn't include me, since I wasn't obedient to his every command and had a mind and opinion of my own. I finally came to terms with that relationship when I realized how many extraordinary men God placed in my life to fill the role my bio dad didn't or couldn't. My grandfather for one taught me so much about unconditional love and was an amazing dad even though genetically he wasn't. I felt for the longest time that if I did anything out of line God wouldn't love me so since I couldn't be perfect for Him to love me why try at all. Wow-what a relief when I figured out His love was unconditional as well. I have put all the old stuff away and moved on to the true realization of who God is and who I am in Him. I even sent my Dad a Christmas card this year and according to one of my brothers it was his best present ever. Which shows even more of my Father God's heart.
Praise God!!!! Thank you for sharing this, Charlotte! I love hoe God not only brought you men to show you fatherly love but also to model God;s love and grace! I also love that God is molding your heart and helping you to forgive <3 I am praying along with you for more restoration in the years to come with this relationship <3
I have one amazing dad. My brother and I grew up wanting for nothing. My dad had little as a child so he poured everything he could onto us. He does not know The Lord…yet, but I know God is working. I love my dad with my whole heart. He is funny and has so many crazy stories, it is hard to believe sometimes!!! <3
Okay here I go…I would say that I didn’t really have a relationship with my father when I was growing up. He worked alot or was doing things that he should not have been doing. My childhood I would say was different. We moved around alot and not really putting roots down anywhere like a normal kid would experience with lots of friends and stuff. I know that is why God brought the wonderful man in my life that he did to show me what family, roots and love from our heavenly Father is all about.
Thanks Megan for this post and sharing a little part of your life and dad with us.