November 21, 2024

A Daughter’s Worth: Week 9/ Day 4 – Peer Relationships are Difficult

 

Peer Relationships are Difficult

I was always the type of girl who stayed to myself, until I got grown. I was a very shy young lady :-/ It wasn’t that I didn’t want friends, because I had them; it was just that my friendship circle was small. I valued my friendships, but like I said before, I was shy and wasn’t comfortable being around a lot of people. I don’t know, maybe some of you are like that too. I can’t say that I was a social butterfly like my two sisters were, and are, but I had some friends who were very close and dear to my heart.

Whenever you are in any kind of relationship, it has its potential of being difficult at any given time. You can be so close to someone that it can get to a point where maybe some of the things that they have always said or did, may begin to bother you, or get under your skin. We are being honest…right? Well, for me, that is true. I am the type of person that when I am bothered by something, I would never say anything about what bothered me, and girls, that is so not good! Learn from me!!! If something is bothering you about someone, go to them. It will be hard, and yes, you all have heard me say this before, but it will be beneficial to your relationships and friendships.

I can hear God saying…  “Is anything too hard for Me? NO! Nothing is EVER too hard for Me!!!”

Peer relationships can be difficult because these are the people that you possibly spend as much time with, as you do your own family, so that means that you are so close to these people that sometimes you can get on each other’s nerves, but that is okay.  Love each other enough to always make amends.  Anytime that you are really close to someone, small problems will happen from time to time…arguing, being upset with each other, etc…

Peers that you may not be so close to…you know…the ones that may pick at you or get on your nerves, all I can say is do what I KNOW works…pray, pray, pray for them! God will handle those types of peer relationships as well.

 

Let’s pray:

Dear Lord thank You for the girls that You have placed in GCH: Decaf. Help them to remember that You love them oh so much and that You want what is best for them. When they start to feel like the relationships that they are in become too stressful for them, remind them to gently come to You and place those relationships at Your feet and You will take care of them. I seal this prayer with the name of Your precious Son Jesus. Amen.

Love,

Tonya

 

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About Tonya Elliott

Tonya Elliott - Blog Contributor – Teens Ministry
Tonya is a 40-year-old Memphis native, where she lives with her 4 beautiful children, ranging in age from 19 years to 12. She currently works for a faith-based organization called Memphis Leadership Foundation as a Young Women’s Coordinator, working with middle school aged girls. She loves to read and learn new things, and is currently seeking her degree in Human Services.

Comments

  1. Great advice here Tonya! We are to pray for our enemies. PRAYER WORKS!!!! Peer pressure can be such a controlling issue in teens. We must get the word out to them that through Christ, we CAN do ALL things!

  2. I too am shy though pretend on the outside I'm not. From my childhood experiences of adandonment of my father, I had a hard time trusting and intimacy with others. My response at times when I start to become close to my girlfriend is run. I'm afraid of getting hurt. I'm working hard to change this. I do need to be more honest because friendship are very important and everyone needs them…great post Tonya you got me thinking this morning

    • Leslie, I was the same way. We traveled so much with my father being in the military, I changed friends often…friends moved, I moved, had to start all over again, so I guess that I felt that it was safer for me to stay in my little shell :-/ It can be hard. I will be praying for you as well, as I ask that you will do for me 🙂 <3

  3. We are so much alike it really isn't funny. Really. Thank you for sharing your heart with these young readers. I value your friendship, Memphis T

    • Mama T!!!! You know that I love you to pieces!!! Yes, we are very much alike! I am so looking forward to seeing you face to face next weekend 🙂 I value your friendship too!!!