“For the law was given through Moses,
grace and truth came through Jesus Christ.”
John 1:17
Some of you know that my oldest son James (who I CANNOT believe will be 21 this month!!!) has Asperger’s Syndrom. One of the characteristics typical to Aspies is that they tend to not show a whole lot of emotional about things and can even have a robotic-type of sound to their voice when they speak.
My Aspie is no different and it used to drive me crazy when I would be really upset with him about something and the only response I would get from him would be “ok.” You see, I am an extremely passionate person… when I am happy, I am super happy. When I am upset, I am super upset. SO, to have someone simply say “ok” in response to one of my epic rants would just drive me insane…… but it always instantly got me to calm down and it diffused the situation.
I know I say this all the time, but it’s true…. EMOTIONS ARE DECEIVING!!!! Ladies, we don’t always HAVE to be right, or get the last word in, or be in the driver’s seat for every conversation. We need to just STOP and simply say…
Okay.
That’s it.
Proverbs 15:1
A gentle answer turns away anger, but a harsh word stirs up wrath.
On page 235, Priscilla writes:
“Truly the wise woman doesn’t always seek to be heard or validated but sometimes- in order to protect and preserve relationships, in order to invite peace back into her home- chooses a soft, delicate, gentle response in place of one that’s harsh and explosive, harmful and wounding. She is resolved not to tend the fire of quarrelsome conversations, knowing she’ll only be covered in ashes long after the embers have burned out… she is patient. She brings calm to the storm.”
Choosing to respond in this way, and NOT react makes you wise and graceful… not a pushover or a doormat. I cannot think of a more intentional way to show grace, respect and honor in conversation than to be so careful with your words. God calls us to this, but it is up to us to obey and show this grace.
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Let’s Pray:
Lord, help us to temper our tongues and show grace in every conversation today. We need you to work within us from the inside out to get out-of-the-way be graceful in all circumstances. Help us to model this in our homes, in our work places and in our communities. Help us be difference-makers, Father! Give us the courage and wisdom to know when to be silent or only mutter the tiny word “ok.” We thank you for this provision, Lord! In Your Son’s matchless name we pray, amen <3
Your Assignment:
Prayerfully consider how you can apply the message of these verses in your life today:
- A soothing tongue is a tree of life, but perversion in it crushes the spirit.” (Proverbs 15:4)
- Patience can persuade a prince, and soft speech can break bones.” (Proverbs 25:15)
Resolve to respond with “ok” as much as you can in the next 48 hours in order to begin to make this a habit. Take note of the impact it makes in your closest relationships <3
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Be a blessing,
Megan 🙂
Resolution for Women: Ok
September 18, 2012 by
About Megan SmidtMegan Smidt – Co-Founder of Girlfriends Coffee Hour
Megan and her husband Craig live in Murfreesboro, Tennessee, along with their 5 children ranging in age from 21 years old to 14. Megan is a Certified Christian Life Coach specializing in Relationship Coaching and more specifically, Blended Family Relationships. She also works part-time as Personal Assistant to Christian Musician Yancy. She loves to travel and spend time with family and friends. She enjoys reading, music, movies, photography, paper crafting, sewing and roller skating.
This is good! Reminds me of what I heard Dr. Tony Evans talking about yesterday…he compared how we speak to our husbands to a court room…when someone stands up in a court room, speaking their mind, even though they may be RIGHT, the judge would tell them they are OUT of order, and if they do it again, they would be in contempt of court! Many times, I've felt like I just had to tell my husband how it is…and yeah, I may have been right, but felt pretty badly about it later, I sure could have handled myself with a sweeter spirit! 🙂
So true, dear sister!!! We all want to feel good about every conversation and every interaction!!! Begin today with "okay." <3
ok (endeavoring to get it from the heart!) <3
Praying along with you coleen <3
Okay. The sound is so soothing…….you can feel a calm settling in as life is breathed into the situation and all is made well.
Amen, Anne <3
I am going to put these scriptures into force with a meeting that I am to have this Wednesday night. I need prayer that God will put a guard on my tongue, and on my heart, and that I would speak only grace and love into this person. God is moving in this relationship and I am praying for a complete restoration!! Thank You. I am adding the word OKAY to my vocabulary today. What an awesome chapter, and such a God thing that it came into my life THIS WEEK!!! God is so good!!!
His timing is perfect <3 standing in prayer with you, Christi 🙂
Okay…..Our work has been really extremely busy lately and you can feel sometimes the tensions with some of the workers. I am going to try to just say okay at work in order that calming grace will surround our work place throughout the rest of this project.
You're always right on it friend!!!!