What does honoring and loving our husbands look like?
We were given some wonderful scriptures to read to help us “get the picture” of what it looks like in 1 Peter 3:1-5.
The main part of these verses this lesson focused on for us is verse 4. “Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
I think of it as “my recipe” for my marriage.
To be “gentle” means to be (humble, considerate or meek). Priscilla says simply put “we are being asked to be kind to our husbands”.
So how about it? Can we resolve to be kind? What are some ways we can proactively show kindness to our husband? Here are just a few that have been part of my list for a while that I thought I would share with you today
- Leave him alone while he is doing his business in the bathroom
- Don’t cut him down, especially in front of others
- Encourage his hobbies
- Do things with him that he likes, even when you don’t
- Don’t get upset when he wants to take a trip with just the guys
- Don’t move his belongings around without discussing with him first
- Leave electronic devices at home or in your purse when you go out for dinner
- Make a date night with him at least once a week, even if its just popcorn and movie after the kids are in bed
- Honor him in front of the children and others
- Treat him as if God stamped on His forehead “handle with care”
Do we truly go “out of our way” to find out what our husband likes. Don’t wait for him to tell us, look for it, he will love that we took the time to truly find out without him having to tell us.
To be “quiet” does not mean you are supposed to be silent, instead we are to be a living, breathing expression of the Word of God. Quietness has more to do with the state of our hearts than the quality and volume of our words.
Our lesson taught us we are to try and lighten the load for our husbands. This means for us to figure out how we can make or help our husbands day “just a little bit easier”, as this will help him to feel more confident because he knows we’re not here to tear him down but to build him up.
When we say “I do” that means we are becoming a team “together” and that means we are to be his “helpmeet”. When we show our man that we want to “serve” him then he is much more likely to reciprocate the same back to us and our family.
Many times its “our words” in much of our day that speaks in our relationships….when sometimes we just need the power that is reflected in the two words “gentleness and quietness” to take the lead.
Earlier in the week as I began this weeks study of fulfilling my husband I had decided to ask my husband a question…I wanted to find out what he thought about how I fulfill him? Am I doing a good job at it? Are there some ways I can do better or fulfill him more than I do today after 33 years of marriage?
And ladies this is what he told me…are you ready for this…
He said “everything you do for me or with me is just perfect the way I like it so I don’t think there is anything you need to do better or different”
That made me know at least I know I am on the right track with fulfilling my man…..but I know all the outward stuff he sees or hears is probably supplying/fulfilling him but what about my inward thoughts….do I do the same on the inside or am I yelling at him when he doesn’t do what I think is the right thing, if I am, then I am not fully fulfilling him and I need to work on my thoughts too.
Let’s resolve to honor and love our man like God has taught us to in His Word!
Let’s Pray:
Father, teach us what each of us need to do or change in our lives/marriages to ensure we are fulfilling our husband and help us to accomplish it Lord, for when we honor him we are honoring You.
In Your name I pray Amen!
Your Assignment:
Think of one thing you can do to be proactively kind to your man and DO IT!!!
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I can go out and hit the volleyball around with him. This is his favorite thing. It reminds him of his beach volleyball days. I know it, but it's not my fave. I resolve to make him smile by doing this!
oh how wonderful and you get some exercise too!
I am trying to give him more time to himself. So when he goes to the gym at night I find something else to do (we both go to the gym in the morning). I give him control of the remote & watch sports with him, which I enjoy most of the time. I also try to keep items on hand that I know he likes, without him having to ask me to pick them up.
oh how special, you give/he gives….thats the way it works…love it!!
I really want to have supper cooking when he comes home, which is earlier than most husbands…he gets home about 3:45. I take care of babies til 6:30. By that time, I'm ready to collapse on the couch! I know my husband loves to eat healthy, so I need to plan healthy meals, and know what I'm cookin for supper and get it going early in the day! If I don't, he goes in the kitchen and opens up cans of this or that…and I feel soooo awful about that! I believe this is one of the most important things I can do for him and he would appreciate more than a perfectly picked up house, which I seem to focus on more!
Tawnya, here's a suggestion, try planning a meal schedule on the weekend for the following week and get the items you need (only plan one week at a time though, cause if not you will find that most times you won't stick to it)…you may find to have it written down and bought in advance will help you both, he gets his healthy meal and you aren't struggling at the late minute to make decisions, then you will have more time to spend together doing some other things….just a thought….thanks for sharing.
i can intentionally listen to him…when he is 'thinking out loud' about a piece of furniture he is re-upholstering or EVEN 😉 when he is talking politics or, perish the thought, when he comes and starts talking to me when i am on fb. yes i will do it!!! <3
I love your word intentionally….yes DO IT girl…..I am doing the same! thanks for sharing
The biggest thing I do is encourage him when he does something pointing out how nicely done it is. I love watch sci-fi with him even when I don't understand it!! LOL.
Anne thanks for sharing…there are many times I watch things with Marty that I have NO clue what it's about but he likes it so I watch it anyway….and try not to ask him questions about it because that interrupts him enjoying it