{"id":7365,"date":"2013-01-22T00:01:32","date_gmt":"2013-01-22T05:01:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/?p=7365"},"modified":"2013-01-25T12:40:14","modified_gmt":"2013-01-25T17:40:14","slug":"lifes-healing-choices-week-3-whats-holding-you-back","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/2013\/01\/22\/lifes-healing-choices-week-3-whats-holding-you-back\/","title":{"rendered":"Life’s Healing Choices: Week 3 “The Commitment Choice” – What’s Holding You Back?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I have a question for you this morning: What is holding you back from surrendering your problems and your life to the care of God?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Today we are going to talk about five things that keep us from making this choice: Pride, Fear, Guilt, Worry, and Doubt. \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

This has been, and to this day still\u00a0is, a battle for me in a few areas in my life. I found it painfully hard to fully acknowledge to myself those painful feelings of guilt that I tried to push down deep inside that would continue to pop up and hurt. Satan loves to try and ruin our day by bringing up past scars. He loves to see us reliving that pain and being pushed bit by bit away from God. His desire is that the pain will always be there and we will not ever be able to heal.<\/p>\n

Everyone has feelings of pride, fear, guilt, worry, and doubt from time to time. But God wants us to stop, let go, and give Him these feelings and hurts that cause destruction in our lives and to those we love. He simply wants to take care of our hurts; all we have to do is hand them over to Him today. For many, this is not easy. In fact, this was so very hard for me to do. I would like to share a situation in which I had a very hard time giving up control and putting my love and trust in God.<\/p>\n

Due to the lack of male figures as a child growing up, I had trust issues and I yearned for male attention. I had my heart broken many times as a young child and I truly felt very sorry for myself and very angry toward men,\u00a0but on the other hand, I wanted their love so badly. When I was 14 years old, I was raped by my boyfriend. He pressured me to be with him because he \u201cloved\u201d me. Although I wanted that love so bad, I wasn’t sure if I was ready to give myself to him. \u00a0At the last minute, I decided not to go through with it, but he chose to continue…without my consent. \u00a0Afterwards, he threatened that if I ever told anyone what he did, or tried to break up with him, he would let everyone know what I had done with him; that I was no longer innocent and pure.<\/p>\n

As time went on, anger, hurt, love, and trust turned into major resentment toward every man I came in contact with. I was not about to trust a man with my heart. I would be the one in control, and I would not have to fear rejection. I started using my body as a way to control that overwhelming need for love. I used sex lying to myself calling it \u201clove.\u201d I would now become the rejecter. Although, reality was that sex became disgusting to me because it was filth and not love that I always yearned for. That was when I decided I would be the one who would cause one to feel sad, hurt, and unloved. I wanted men to \u201cwant\u201d me, because this is what I thought love was. I learned great ways to manipulate them with my eyes, the way I moved my body, the way I did things to cause them to feel jealousy so they would stay with me. This was (in my mind) justifiable behavior. I had been treated that way, so why shouldn\u2019t I treat men that way. Isn\u2019t that how love works?<\/p>\n

After this, I turned very selfish and could not offer real intimacy and pure love to anyone, even with my devoted husband who truly loved me. I just never believed that love was real. I had never received it in any other male relationships before, so I thought how would my marriage be any different. That boyfriend I had, said he loved me, but look how that turned out. I believe this is my reason for having a hard time putting my trust, not only in my husband, but mostly with the Lord. How on earth could my Heavenly Father really love me that way?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Finally I woke up and decided to quit playing the victim. I chose to give this hurt to the Lord along with the control, pride, guilt, fear, worry, and doubt. In the beginning, I did not think He could change me, but God did. He was going to set me free!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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“I have swept away your sins like a cloud. \u00a0I have scattered your offenses like the morning mist. \u00a0Oh return to me, for I have paid the price to set you free.” \u00a0— Isaiah 44:22<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Today, love is changing between me and my husband. I am \u201clearning to trust<\/strong><\/em>\u201d him and even more, trusting God<\/strong><\/em> in all things. God is calling out to all of us \u201cThis is the Lord, trust me, let go, and I will catch you.\u201d (Baker)<\/p>\n

How about you? Are you willing to lay down your pride and surrender? Are you ready to stop being tormented by your hurts that have controlled you for so long? Are you having doubts right now even though you want to believe? Ask God right now to help you with your unbelief. As John Baker says, \u201cJesus said, that\u2019s good enough.\u201d All you need is faith as small as a mustard seed<\/strong><\/em>. If you put that faith in our Big God then you will get results. (Baker)<\/p>\n

Jesus replied, “Because you have so little faith. I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”<\/em> Matthew 17:20<\/strong><\/p>\n

So what are you waiting for? Let go and give Christ control! He wants a loving relationship with you more than anything!<\/p>\n

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Let’s Pray:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lord, Thank You for Your love for us. You tell us, Lord, to come to You with all things and You will give us rest. Lord, we want to do this and surrender our problems and care over to You; but it\u2019s not easy. The pride, guilt, fear, worry, and doubt get in the way. Lord, we ask You to help us right now to let go and surrender our problems and lives to the care and control of You. Lord,we need help. We need You in our lives. All this we pray in Jesus’ Name, Amen.<\/p>\n

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Your Assignment:\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Write down and explain which of these things God is showing to you about yourself such as: pride, guilt, fear, worry, and doubt that is holding you back from making a decision to surrender and give Christ control of your life. Remember, comments made here are public. You do have the option of signing in anonymously.<\/em><\/p>\n

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