{"id":4564,"date":"2012-11-28T00:30:55","date_gmt":"2012-11-28T06:30:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/?p=4564"},"modified":"2013-01-25T00:16:22","modified_gmt":"2013-01-25T05:16:22","slug":"lady-in-waiting-avoiding-bozos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/2012\/11\/28\/lady-in-waiting-avoiding-bozos\/","title":{"rendered":"Lady in Waiting: Avoiding Bozos"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>But, he seemed like such a &#8220;nice guy\u201d. \u00a0How many times have we heard that? \u00a0How many times have I said that myself? I thought I had a Boaz, but after awhile the disguise fell off and the Bozo came out. I think\u00a0we&#8217;ve\u00a0all been there before.<\/p>\n<p>Like so many things in life the difference between spotting a Bozo from a Boaz boils down to the condition of our hearts. Three aspects actually, our standards, our convictions, and our motives (yes, back to the motives!)<\/p>\n<p>Oh, those motives, they seem to determine so many things in life. But they have such a large impact on our thoughts and actions that we have to constantly evaluate why we are doing things, why we are saying things and even why we\u00a0 are thinking things. When it comes to dating we have to ask ourselves why we are dating who we are dating. Questioning our motives will impact our standards and our convictions in this situation or in others down the road; I believe that if our motives do not line up with God, then our standards and convictions won\u2019t either.<\/p>\n<p>God already knows why we are doing what we\u2019re doing. He already knows why we\u2019re dating someone. He wants us to see that we deserve more than accepting a date with a bozo because it\u2019s been a long time since we were last taken out. \u00a0He knows we deserve more than dating a man who\u00a0isn&#8217;t\u00a0a Christian because the loneliness is growing in our hearts. <em>He knows that we deserve a Boaz, and that a Bozo is not fit for a daughter of the King.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>As a daughter of the most high, we can have standards that line up with His word, and yes those standards are high. But those are the standards our Father set for us, remember He has our best interest in mind, and wants us to have the Boaz that we deserve.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>With Love,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Tonya Ellison<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">_________________________<\/p>\n<p><strong>Let\u2019s pray:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Dear Heavenly Father, again we are found examining our motives, why do we do the things we do, and why do we accept the things from people that are less than we deserve? Please help us to examine our motives before we act. \u00a0Please help us to line our motives up with Your will and Your word. We are daughters of the Most High, and as such You have set Your standards in place for our Boaz. Please help us embrace these standards, and thank You for only wanting the best for our lives. \u00a0In Jesus. Name, amen.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Your assignment:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I love how the Auburn University student wrote down her standards and carried them with her. We are going to refer back to this list for today\u2019s assignment. Are there any characteristics that you want to add to your list? Next, make a list similar to this if you don\u2019t already have one, what qualities and standards do you want on your list for your Boaz. Remember, these are standards that our Father has already placed here for us may seem high, <em><strong>but they are what you deserve<\/strong><\/em>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">_________________________<\/p>\n<p><strong>For the \u201cLady in Waiting\u201d Bible Study, you will need the book, your Bible, pen or pencil, a highlighter and a quiet place. You can order the book right through our website by clicking the \u201csign-up here\u201d button at the top of our webpage; which is also where you can sign up to participate in this awesome bible study!<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>But, he seemed like such a &#8220;nice guy\u201d. \u00a0How many times have we heard that? \u00a0How many times have I said that myself? I thought I had a Boaz, but after awhile the disguise fell off and the Bozo came out. I think\u00a0we&#8217;ve\u00a0all been there before. 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