{"id":4280,"date":"2012-11-21T00:30:11","date_gmt":"2012-11-21T06:30:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/?p=4280"},"modified":"2013-01-24T23:47:06","modified_gmt":"2013-01-25T04:47:06","slug":"lady-in-waiting-the-11th-commandment-pre-nuptual-fantasies","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/2012\/11\/21\/lady-in-waiting-the-11th-commandment-pre-nuptual-fantasies\/","title":{"rendered":"Lady in Waiting: The 11th Commandment – Prenuptual Fantasies"},"content":{"rendered":"

The 11th<\/sup> commandment: Thou shalt not defraud thyself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0I wanted to look up the meaning of fraud when I started reading this section of the book. The Miriam-Webster dictionary describes the word defraud as depriving someone of something by deception or fraud.\u00a0 What am I depriving myself of? My contentment. I want more than what I have, I don\u2019t take the time to slow down and pray about a situation before acting on it. I try to convince myself that a situation may be more than what it really is. I am deceiving and defrauding myself.<\/p>\n

Sometimes reality gets boring, and sometimes reality can make me feel less than happy when I look at where I am and where others around me might be.<\/p>\n

Remember, God wants to protect us, He wants the best for us, but we need to slow down and step back before acting. \u201cTo heed the eleventh commandment, you must consciously resist doing another good deed for a man in your life until you know the motive behind your \u201cunselfish\u201d gesture\u201d. The authors of this book aid it beautifully.<\/p>\n

Another thing that I try to always remind myself is that God made me to be an emotional person; women in general are emotional and at times these emotions try to get the best of us. We feel a flutter in our hearts and we run with it. We see the possibility for an open door and run through it, without taking the time to see if that is the direction God wants us to go in.<\/p>\n

We need to go back to checking our motives. Why am I doing what I\u2019m doing?<\/p>\n

The authors also say that \u201ca dedicated Christian should do good deeds, but if you limit your service to the men in your group it will ultimately backfire.\u201d I want to stretch this a little further. If we do good deeds for only a selective few in our circle it will backfire, if we\u2019re doing things for others only to benefit ourselves it will hurt us in the end.<\/p>\n

God has our situations in His hands, He will make things happen when they need to happen and he will bring the relationship to us in his timing with the person of his choosing. We need only be willing to let Him. We need to enjoy His gift of contentment.<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that if we find ourselves interested in a person that we have to run in the other direction. What it means is that we need to seek God. We need to give the situation to Him and pray that his will be done. We need to check our motives before doing good deeds, before jumping into the situation with an open heart.<\/p>\n

Remember, a good Christian should do good deeds for those God places in your path. He wants us to show his love through our actions to everyone.<\/p>\n

With Love,<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tonya Ellison<\/p>\n

_______________________________<\/p>\n

Let’s Pray:<\/p>\n

Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for everything you have given us. It feels as if life gets boring at times, it feels like the lives of others is more than ours. Please help us to remember that you love us, and that love provides what and who we need. Please help us to recognize\u00a0when we are defrauding ourselves and help us turn to you. Thank you for creating opportunities in which we can do good for others. Please remind us that we are to help all of your children because you are love. Touch our hearts when our motives are not in the right place. Thank you for your mercy and grace Lord. \u00a0In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen<\/p>\n

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Your Assignment: When you feel the pull of defrauding how do you counteract it? Please share some ideas, scriptures, quotes that you use to remind you to be content with what and who God has placed in your life.<\/p>\n

______________________________<\/p>\n

For the \u201cLady in Waiting\u201d Bible Study, you will need the book, your Bible, pen or pencil, a highlighter and a quiet place. You can order the book right through our website by clicking the \u201csign-up here\u201d button at the top of our webpage; which is also where you can sign up to participate in this awesome bible study!<\/p>\n

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