{"id":4200,"date":"2012-11-20T00:30:11","date_gmt":"2012-11-20T06:30:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/?p=4200"},"modified":"2013-01-24T23:43:29","modified_gmt":"2013-01-25T04:43:29","slug":"winning-him-without-words-travel-the-road-of-forgiveness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/2012\/11\/20\/winning-him-without-words-travel-the-road-of-forgiveness\/","title":{"rendered":"Winning Him Without Words: Travel The Road of Forgiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"<span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"480\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/VquoupNiypI?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">_______________________<\/p>\n<p>Bitterness, resentment and\u00a0anger over unmet needs. These are all kindling for unforgiveness and I have gathered them all. When someone does something that hurts me, I am unable to tell them. Confrontation is too difficult for me. I am a &#8220;nice&#8221; person and a &#8220;nice&#8221; person does not argue or complain.\u00a0That is unless you are my husband.\u00a0When\u00a0he does something to irritate me, I&#8217;m all about letting him know about it. It&#8217;s that &#8220;word&#8221; thing again! My mouth opens like a flood gate and all sorts of &#8220;you should&#8217;ve known better&#8221; and &#8220;you don&#8217;t care about me&#8221; accusations come bursting out. In the world, people say releasing that anger is cleansing. But not me. After I lose my temper I am left with feelings of guilt. I know I shouldn&#8217;t act that way and I am embarrassed of my actions. That guilt turns into resentment towards my husband because if he hadn&#8217;t made me mad in the first place, I wouldn&#8217;t be feeling so lousy now. So I stay angry, resentful and bitter and can&#8217;t even fathom forgiving my husband for making me angry.<\/p>\n<p>Ugh. How exhausting that kind of marriage can be. So to change this endless cycle I have had to pray, and I&#8217;ve had to pray HARD because forgiveness is hard! When you feel jilted your human instinct is to get even, it&#8217;s the\u00a0insult for insult, eye for an eye mentality. But God doesn&#8217;t want you to act like that. He wants you to give it to Him!<\/p>\n<p>Especially when you are trying to speak with your unbelieving spouse. I recently had\u00a0a discussion with a friend who is an unbeliever. I was astounded that he truly does not believe in God and I know he was just as perplexed with my views. It makes it very hard to have a civil discussion when both sides believe so strongly in their views, doesn&#8217;t it? Insulting, angry words will be tossed around, tempers will escalate, feelings will get hurt. Things may be said that are very hard to forgive. And like I said above, forgiveness is hard, but not if you ask God for his help. Turn to Him and tell him of your hurts and ask Him to help you forgive your husband. By turning to God you are given the power of the Holy Spirit and through Him you can do all things! Even forgive!<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>When you forgive you gain freedom<\/strong><\/em>. Freedom from the hurt feelings, freedom from the frustration and anger. He takes it all from you and leaves you free\u00a0to just love your husband as he is, because after all, that is what God wants us to do. He doesn&#8217;t want you to worry about your unsaved spouse anymore. Leave that to God &amp; be your husbands fine linen rope.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Let&#8217;s Pray:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Dear Lord, forgiveness is a hard thing to do, but we know how important it is, not only for a\u00a0healthy marriage, but also for a healthy mind and body. Unforgiveness can eat away at us like a cancer if we let it. Reveal to us Lord the areas of unforgiveness in our marriage and help us to give them to You. Help us to heal from the past hurts and replace that pain with the feeling of freedom! In your precious name, Jesus, Amen.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Your Assignment:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Below I&#8217;d like you to talk about an area of unforgiveness in your marriage that \u00a0you may be holding onto. We will all pray with you to release it to God!<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Godspeed,<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Sarah<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<\/p>\n<p><b>For the Winning Him Without Words\u009d Bible Study, you will need the book,\u00a0your Bible, pen or pencil, a highlighter and a quiet place. You can order the\u00a0book right through our website by clicking the &#8220;Sign-Up Here&#8221; button located at the top\u00a0of our webpage; which is also where you can sign up to participate in this\u00a0awesome bible study!<\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>_______________________ Bitterness, resentment and\u00a0anger over unmet needs. These are all kindling for unforgiveness and I have gathered them all. When someone does something that hurts me, I am unable to tell them. Confrontation is too difficult for me. 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