\nIs it really necessary to win an argument? \u00a0Why do we want \u201cto win\u201d?<\/p>\n
Do we feel that when we do, we have some kind of special power over the other person?<\/p>\n
How many of us were\/are like the little six year old in our lesson today, when we don\u2019t win, we bawl(cry), we mouth words back to the person showing our total disappointment and we don\u2019t stop doing these things until we get a point across to them in hopes to get a little reward in something.\u00a0\u00a0 Probably most of us can answer yes to this question\/thought.<\/p>\n
Each of us have something growing inside of us that likes \u201cthe victory\u201d moments to occur, we like to be able to say \u201csee there I did that\u201d or \u201cI won that\u201d\u2026..and for some reason we especially like to have those moments with our husbands for some reason. \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0We feel like when we win a battle that we have won the most ultimate gift of the day until tomorrow when something else happens and we are trying all over \u201cto win again\u201d.<\/p>\n
I am here to say we will \u201cNEVER\u201d win, not the true gift anyway as long as we are just trying to win a \u201cdaily battle\/conflict\u201d in our marriage, because you see all those are just temporary \u201cwins\u201d, they have no meaning, they have no permanence, all they have is a temporary feeling and then they start all over the next morning.<\/p>\n
Do we sit and think about the daily battles \u201cbefore\u201d we choose one to battle over?\u00a0\u00a0 I love what Gods Word tells us In Luke 21:14 NIV \u201cbut make up your mind not to worry beforehand how you will defend yourselves.<\/p>\n
This\u00a0verse tells us that we are able to make a decision not to worry, that we should Resolve and settle in our minds not to meditate and prepare beforehand how we will make our defense and how we will answer.<\/p>\n
To meditate means to roll something around in our mind. Worry is simply rolling unpleasant possibilities around in our minds. Not to prepare beforehand how we will responsd to those who disagree with us is a real step of faith. We are then forced to rely on whatever God brings to our minds. By not preparing a battle and rolling these scenarios around in our minds we are now opening our minds instead to receive wisdom from God.<\/p>\n
Worry can sneak up on us and we find all sorts of negative possibilities seeping into our minds uninvited and unwelcome, it is when conflicts in our marriage will begin to creep in, all because we want to win a battle, we want to gain an inch of ground in the argument.<\/p>\n
\u00a0Why can\u2019t we just \u201ckeep our mouths shut\u201d<\/p>\n
\u00a0We must remember that the ones of us who are believers and any of our husbands who are not believers do not see things the same way. One sees with God\u2019s eyes and the other with the world\u2019s eyes.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Thankfully Lynn tells us on Pg. 109 that \u201cwe believers view life through the lens of God\u2019s Word, we filter the day\u2019s events and process them through the truths we discover from reading our Bible daily and the time we spend in prayer and our husband processes life from some other source.\u00a0\u00a0 This makes our marriage a tough one to live every day and this is one reason why we have \u201cdaily battles\u201d. \u00a0These are the times we have to decide to \u201cstand up, or give up\u201d\u00a0 –\u00a0 really is that what it has to be?\u00a0 NO!\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 instead the process in these daily battles\u00a0 needs to be us becoming mature in Christ and learning to pick and choose our battles carefully and prayerfully.<\/p>\n
We all have things to learn from some of these battles we go through but we need to discern the unimportant issues and as we have all heard before \u201csimply agree to disagree\u201d with our husband.<\/p>\n
We can\u2019t win our marriage on our own, we can\u2019t take on the role of Jesus in trying to get our marriage to a place where we want it to, instead we need to give our daily battles to God and let Him do all the changing, stop pushing our faith and belief on our man to the point where we argue about it or even the simplest things that take away the focus of God in our lives and in our marriage.<\/p>\n
Ladies our husband will see God has changed us, we don\u2019t have to try and make him see and then the key that will unlock these battles is a \u201ctransformed life in Him(our husband) and a transformed life in us (our marriage)\u201d<\/p>\n
Let\u2019s just surrender our need to win a battle and instead embrace and surrender our marriage, let\u2019s be the peacemaker and let Christ handle all the rest!<\/p>\n
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Let\u2019s Pray:<\/i><\/b>\u00a0\u00a0 God I pray for each one of us as we will face upcoming battles in our marriages, help us Lord not to choose the battle but instead look to you and help us to decide if the issue\/battle is truly worth this conflict we will face, and help us Lord instead to surrender it to you\u201d\u00a0 In your name I pray. Amen!<\/p>\n
Your assignment:<\/i><\/b>\u00a0\u00a0 Tell us how you resolve conflicts\/battles in your marriage.\u00a0\u00a0 How do you pick\/choose your battles?\u00a0\u00a0 How many of you never have any conflicts\/battles with your man, if so teach us your method and how it can help us to grow this area of our marriage.<\/p>\n
Love you all,<\/p>\n
Beverly<\/p>\n
For the \u201cWinning Him Without Words\u201d Bible Study, you will need the book, your Bible, pen or pencil, a highlighter and a quiet place. You can order the book right through our website by clicking the \u201csign-up here\u201d button at the top of our webpage; which is also where you can sign up to participate in this awesome bible study!<\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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