{"id":2366,"date":"2012-10-15T05:00:24","date_gmt":"2012-10-15T10:00:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/?p=2366"},"modified":"2013-01-24T20:31:03","modified_gmt":"2013-01-25T01:31:03","slug":"winning-him-without-words-love-is-for-a-lifetime","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/2012\/10\/15\/winning-him-without-words-love-is-for-a-lifetime\/","title":{"rendered":"Winning Him Without Words: Love is For a Lifetime"},"content":{"rendered":"

As I studied this lesson for today I sat for two days thinking what in the world can I share about \u201clove being for a lifetime\u201d that was not already shared by these wonderful authors and then as I was sitting having dinner and Bible Study with my sister God showed me what to share from one word in a sentence on Pg. 56, \u201cGod is freely giving us the secret<\/i><\/b> to a long and joyful marriage\u201d, and here is what God showed me:<\/p>\n

the secret is in the “C”‘s<\/em><\/strong><\/h2>\n

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C<\/span>ommitment<\/span>\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0 (Matthew 19:4-6<\/a>)<\/p>\n

Without commitment to each other and to God a harmonious marriage cannot last long. Give yourselves fully to each other. Marriage commitment is a \u201cvow for life\u201d. Commitment is hard work. Commitment sometimes means that you are willing to be unhappy for a while until both of you can work things out. Good marriages aren\u2019t freebies…they must be made through effort. Are you really <\/i>committed to your mate or are you just hoping it will last?<\/p>\n

C<\/span>ompromise<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

When two people live together there must be compromise. Give and take\u2026.remembering that you don’t have to be right. The husband is commanded to love and honor the wife thus fulfilling the solemn vow you have just made. \u00a0Probably one of the most unloving things we do to one another is try and change each other. Compromise is the evidence of real love.<\/p>\n

C<\/span>ommunication<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Communication is only possible if one is listening <\/i>while the other one is speaking. Sometimes the spouse doesn’t even need to be speaking! Even more importantly than understanding words, it is imperative that you understand how your partner feels. Stop what you are doing and give devoted attention to each other. Set aside blocks of time for communication and undivided attention.<\/p>\n

C<\/span>ourtesy<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Courtesy is kindness, good manners, being a gentleman or a lady. It almost seems an old fashioned concept in this day and age, but it is important for a good marriage relationship. J B Phillips translated 1 Corinthians 13: 5, “Love has good manners.”<\/p>\n

C<\/span>omedy<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Proverbs 15:13 says, “A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.”<\/p>\n

Let there be laughter. Joy is the mark of a Christian life. Laughter is good for the soul. Go ahead, be a clown; get that frown off your face. Tell a joke; do something silly!<\/p>\n

C<\/span>harity<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s an old fashioned word which we often translate “love”. I’m talking about pure and simple LOVE. Love bears all things, the Bible says. Without love there is no intimate relationship. Love is a gift from God. Godly love is unconditional. It does not depend upon the other party or their behavior. It is genuine. Love is not just a physical attraction, but a spiritual commitment.<\/p>\n

C<\/span>ourtship<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Physical affection and intimacy is biblical and a must if a marriage is going to thrive. (Proverbs 5:18-19 \u2013 \u201c…And rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And al- ways be enraptured with her love.\u201d<\/p>\n

One problem among many couples today is that we\u2019ve forgotten how to court. The real issue is that what we did to capture our mate\u2019s love we no longer do to keep their love. Think about it for a minute. We used to get all dressed up, perfumed up, pumped up for our dates together. We got married and things changed. We now see each other at absolutely the worst times of the day: in the morning with our bed head and doggy breath and in the evenings with bad days and droopy drawers. We have got to be intentional about continual courtship.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t delete dating from your marriage. In other words, \u201cDate your mate.\u201d The Bible tells us in Ecclesiastes 9:9 that we are to \u201clive joyfully with the wife whom you love…\u201d If you\u2019ve stopped dating, you\u2019ve started drifting apart. Find fun things to do together. Find something you both like to do and then go do it.<\/p>\n

The last and best \u201cC\u201d is CHRIST<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

Jesus Christ is the main ingredient that so many marriages leave out. Jesus is interested in our marriage. After all, Jesus\u2019 first miracle was performed at a wedding where He was the invited guest. How many marriages have left Him off the invitation list? He is the only one who can give you the ability to love when you feel that you\u2019ve run out of love.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s not a greater gift that you could give your life mate than to become a godly person, become like Jesus and treat your mate the way He would treat them. (Philippians 2:5 \u2013\u201cLet this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus.\u201d)<\/p>\n

Christ must be center of both of your lives and as you grow towards Him, He will grow you even closer to one another.<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/b>A surefire way of maintaining these \u00a0“C’s” \u00a0is to pray together as husband and wife on a daily basis. Don’t let busy schedules, the TV, work, or the internet crowd this out. Make it your highest priority to \u201cstay connected\u201d and you will have a prosperous marriage journey that will \u201clast a lifetime\u201d<\/p>\n

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Let\u2019s Pray:<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Lord I pray for each of us as we learn the \u201csecret\u201d you have for our marriage and which ones we need to work on to make our marriage stronger in You Lord and to be assured it will last a lifetime. In Your name I pray.\u00a0 Amen!<\/p>\n

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Your assignment:<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Which one of the C\u2019s have been easy for you since you have been married and which one do you intend on being \u201cintentional\u201d about changing for your future and how can you connect with your husband while making these changes?<\/p>\n

If you would like to join this Online Bible Study and our Facebook Discussion Group, please click on the \u201cSign-Up Here\u201d button at the top of our page, and follow the instructions. \u00a0We will add you as soon as we receive your request.<\/p>\n

Love you all,<\/em><\/p>\n

Beverly<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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