{"id":2254,"date":"2012-10-12T06:00:57","date_gmt":"2012-10-12T11:00:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/?p=2254"},"modified":"2013-01-24T20:17:24","modified_gmt":"2013-01-25T01:17:24","slug":"winning-him-without-words-weekly-overview","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/2012\/10\/12\/winning-him-without-words-weekly-overview\/","title":{"rendered":"Winning Him Without Words: Weekly Overview"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n<blockquote>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>\u201cWhither thou goest, I will go, and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God.&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong> Ruth 1:16 \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Yes, that was the scripture the minister spoke over my husband and me on our wedding day.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">From a peanut farm in Georgia to Tripoli Lybia, North Africa and on to Maine, Louisiana, Texas. Never would I have thought that \u00a0\u201cgoing whither he goest and \u201clodged\u201d would take me to so many places.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">His people became my dearest family.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">And then it happened &#8211; -seven years into the marriage, I met someone that separated us. \u00a0His name was Jesus, and at that point, my husband\u2019s god was no longer my God.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">It was then I set out on a mission to accomplish my #1 goal in my marriage &#8211; &#8211; -\u201cSave my Husband,\u201d \u00a0so that he would, not only go to hell, but enjoy this new man in my life with me.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">But, no matter how hard I tried, he wouldn\u2019t buy into it. To add to my place of defeat, I received a prophetic word that said: \u00a0\u201cSometimes we are looking for a closer relationship for our loved ones, when at the moment God is looking for that relationship with us.\u201d<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">What I wanted to say to this person giving this prophetic word was: \u00a0\u201cYou missed it. \u00a0God and me are tight! \u00a0It\u2019s my husband who needs to be in a relationship, and I am going to be the one who helps him obtain it.\u201d \u00a0But, the Holy Spirit tapped me on the shoulder one day and politely told me that He didn\u2019t need my help; He could handle things.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">And so it was, I had to stop doing what our author, Lynn Donovan, refers to as \u201cspiritual ambush.\u201d \u00a0[pg 40]<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">As Beverly, Jennifer, Donna, and Sarah outlined each topic in Chapter 2, they bought us to a place of discovering<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">where we have been on our journey in trying to \u201cSave Our Husbands\u201d<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">where we are now<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">and where the Holy Spirit is leading us.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: center;\">___________________________<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><strong>Let\u2019s review their points on Chapter 2 now.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong style=\"font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;\">Monday:<\/strong> \u00a0Don\u2019t Save Your Husband, Save Yourself &#8211; -Beverly told us of all the many things she once did to get her husbands saved and in a relationship with the Lord. Beverly describes these manipulative efforts at soul winning as a handbook on how NOT to win your spouse to Christ.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Beverly arrived at an important decision about her soul winning efforts: \u201cI decided long ago to accept that it\u2019s God\u2019s job to change hearts. That decision frees me to pursue my relationship with God without the added burden of having to bring my husband to faith. All I have to do is love and enjoy him. That\u2019s God\u2019s plan for me, and he gives me all the grace I need to accomplish it.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>May we do likewise.<\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><strong>Tuesday:<\/strong> \u00a0It\u2019s Safe to Relinquish Control &#8211; -Jennifer pointed us to the fact that we know that we can\u2019t save our husbands, but relinquishing our control is hard to do. \u00a0She agree with the reasons that Lynn stated that made it so hard. \u00a0\u00a0[page 44]<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I am the only believer my husband encounters on a regular basis<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I am the one person who is actively praying for him<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">If I do not show my husband Jesus, who will?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">But, Jennifer pointed to Lynn\u2019s statement that made a humbling impression on her to stop the control game. \u00a0You are underestimating the power of the Lord in your life. \u00a0[pg. 44]<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>May we do likewise.<\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><strong>Wednesday:<\/strong> \u00a0 Throw Me a Life Preserver: \u00a0 Donna pointed us to the reality that we are always in need of refining within our marriage. Forgiveness is one thing that is usually part of that refining process, which could go back to things that happened to us in childhood. \u00a0It is those experiences that might have left us with anger, bitterness, and a controlling nature. \u00a0Those things hurt our marriage and each other.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Donna summed it us by saying: \u00a0\u201cI have found that when I hang onto God and trust him to be in control I find freedom and, to quote our author, God can change little ole me and my marriage for His glory.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>May we do likewise.<\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><strong>Thursday:<\/strong> \u00a0A Daily Prayer \/ How Should We Pray&#8212;Sarah brought us back to the place we should be before we got on the bandwagon of trying to Save Our Husbands &#8211; &#8211; -Prayer!<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Even with that revelation, Sarah points to the fact that we have to rid ourselves of distractions, get focused, and the ultimate question of \u201cHow to Pray.\u201d<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">What works for Sarah has been:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Praying in the morning, which frees my mind of the day\u2019s worries because nothing has happened yet to worry or stress me out! Another benefit to praying in the morning is I am better prepared to handle anything that may come along to worry or stress me out!<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">To stay focus, Sarah started a prayer journal, as Lynn suggested. \u00a0She says that by writing her prayers out in long hand, really brings her focus onto the paper and away from the distractions in the room.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">How to Pray, Sarah says that praying from her Bible, using the right scriptures for what she needs God\u2019s help in, but really didn\u2019t know how to ask. \u00a0She turns those scriptures into a personal prayer.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Sarah\u2019s new prayer life is inspiring a special person in her life &#8211; &#8211; HER HUSBAND!<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>May we do likewise!<\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><strong>Friday:<\/strong> \u00a0Discovery\/Prayer: \u00a0Father God, if I could pray just one simple prayer for myself, and this whole community of women who are desiring a closer walk with you, it would be this: \u00a0\u201cHelp us to be doers of your word, and not just hearers.\u201d \u00a0Those things that you have revealed to us this week are priceless. \u00a0Help us walk them out. \u00a0In Jesus name, I pray.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">_______________________________________________________________________<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">For those who are\u00a0reading this blog and would like to join\u00a0the Bible study, we would love to invite you to join us! \u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/sign-up-for-girlfriends-coffee-hour-online-bible-studies\/\">Click here<\/a>\u00a0and follow the instructions, (you can also click the SIGN-UP link in the menu bar above to be taken to the form). It\u2019s that simple! \u00a0We hope to see you soon!<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Above all, if you have not accepted Christ as your Lord and Savior, and would like to have someone pray with you, please email us at Prayer@GirlfriendsCoffeeHour.com. and one of our prayer team members will contact you.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em><strong>Blessings to you,<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Martha<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cWhither thou goest, I will go, and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: \u00a0 thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God.&#8221; Ruth 1:16 \u00a0 Yes, that was the scripture the minister spoke over my husband and me on our wedding day. 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