{"id":16749,"date":"2014-01-08T01:01:45","date_gmt":"2014-01-08T06:01:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/?p=16749"},"modified":"2014-01-07T20:55:45","modified_gmt":"2014-01-08T01:55:45","slug":"trying-perfect","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/2014\/01\/08\/trying-perfect\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Trying to Be Perfect?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"crystaldaughter0108\"<\/a>\u201cMom, I\u2018m done with my room; does it have to be perfect<\/em>?\u201d These are the words coming from my nine-year-old daughter as she cleans her room. I suddenly realize that I have affirmed her with the word perfect<\/em>\u00a0when completing a task \u201cI\u201d felt was how it should be done.\u00a0 What am I saying to her? Does she have to be perfect<\/em> before I think she has done a good job?\u00a0\u00a0If her grade improved from an 80 in math to 90, is that good or will she feel it needs to be a 100 to be accepted?\u00a0 Increasing her grade by ten points is progress that needs to be celebrated and is a big accomplishment. I now speak to her differently because I want her to celebrate progress not perfection<\/em>; something I have learned in my own life.<\/p>\n

Perfect<\/em> is such a common word used by women today and there seems to be a need to achieve it.\u00a0 Then, when perfection<\/em> is not acccomplished, feelings of failure, guilt, and insecurity can happen.<\/p>\n

This year instead of setting unrealistic expectations<\/a>, let us all focus on where and how we can grow<\/strong> instead of striving for perfection<\/em>. Celebrating progress builds confidence with a life of wellness and balance.<\/p>\n

Over the next few weeks, I want to get real and discuss the areas of life, we as women, can put undue pressures on our selves such as our health and fitness<\/span>, spiritual life<\/span>, career<\/span> and as a wife<\/span> and mother<\/span>. Let\u2019s talk about how we can grow<\/strong> and be better, not perfect<\/em>.<\/p>\n

I want my daughter to grow up feeling proud of her successes and good about her accomplishments.\u00a0 I want her to have a mother who spends time and celebrates with her instead of working hard to have everything just perfect<\/em>.<\/p>\n

In Good Health,<\/p>\n

Crystal<\/p>\n

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\u201cMom, I\u2018m done with my room; does it have to be perfect?\u201d These are the words coming from my nine-year-old daughter as she cleans her room. I suddenly realize that I have affirmed her with the word perfect\u00a0when completing a task \u201cI\u201d felt was how it should be done.\u00a0 What am I saying to her? […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":102,"featured_media":16763,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[2399],"tags":[1163,2537,1168,425,4992,4993,4994,4995],"class_list":["post-16749","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-health-wellness-fitness","tag-balance","tag-coaching-w-crystal","tag-fitness","tag-girlfriends-coffee-hour","tag-perfect-mother","tag-realistic","tag-wellbeing","tag-women-and-confidence","entry"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/01\/crystaldaughter0108.jpg","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p39pHp-4m9","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16749","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/102"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16749"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16749\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16779,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16749\/revisions\/16779"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16763"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16749"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16749"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16749"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}