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- Jesus has to be the foundation. \u00a0Without Him, our foundation will not be secure and stable.<\/li>\n
- Choosing<\/strong> is critical to a successful marriage. \u00a0Choosing to love him, respect, and encourage him, on a daily basis. \u00a0Choosing to see the best in him. \u00a0Choosing to always provide for him, and be there for him.<\/li>\n
- Remembering that marriage is a COVENANT. \u00a0There is no room for the word “divorce” in your vocabulary! \u00a0“No matter what, I will choose to love and to stay!” \u00a0Divorce is NOT an option!<\/li>\n
- Mutual respect<\/li>\n
- Never taking each other too seriously. \u00a0Being able to laugh with each other.<\/li>\n
- Dating at least 2 times a month to keep the romance alive.<\/li>\n
- Know each others “love language”.<\/li>\n
- Spend time in the Word, and in Prayer. \u00a0This is the glue that will hold your marriage together.<\/li>\n
- Love Unconditionally<\/li>\n
- Show your husband respect.<\/li>\n
- Encourage your husband.<\/li>\n
- Support your husband in every way.<\/li>\n
- Pray for your husband.<\/li>\n
- NEVER speak badly about your husband to others. \u00a0EVER!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
This was an amazing call last night, and I was very blessed by the words of wisdom that were shared by both of our Guest Speakers!<\/p>\n
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In this chapter of Resolution for Women, we are discussing our husbands Hopes and Fears. \u00a0The two fears that were mentioned in this chapter were “Fear of being inadequate” and “Fear of being controlled. \u00a0I’m not going to spend a lot of time going over the details of each of these fears, because it’s all available to you in the book. \u00a0But, what I am going to focus on today are some statements that were shared in this chapter that stood out to me. \u00a0I’d like to reiterate these statements that Priscilla mentioned, to help us remain focused on areas that will benefit our ability to fulfill our husbands.<\/p>\n
I want to start by asking a question mentioned on page 194, but in my own words: \u00a0“What would your husband do differently if he knew he couldn’t lose your love and respect, no matter what he did?”<\/em><\/p>\n
Would he be able to be free to do what he’s always wanted to do? \u00a0Or would he be held back by his fear of what you would think of him?<\/p>\n
Would he be assured of your encouragement and support? \u00a0Would he know without a doubt that you would support him and inspire him to do even greater things? \u00a0What do you think it would do for him emotionally if you were to be 100% supportive of his dream?<\/p>\n
As Priscilla says, “Only one way to find out.”<\/p>\n
Your husband needs to know that you trust him. \u00a0He needs to know that you believe that he is capable, honorable, and worthy of your attention and admiration. \u00a0He needs to know that you believe in him despite his inadequacies. \u00a0He needs to know that you are praying for him. \u00a0He needs to know that your expectations of him are not higher than they should be! \u00a0None of us are perfect, and we all have inadequacies. \u00a0Ask yourself how it feels (or would feel) if your husband did not support your dream. \u00a0Put yourself in his shoes, and think about what YOU would need from him…and then give exactly that to him in support of his dream.<\/p>\n
Maybe your husband hasn’t always made the right choices. \u00a0Maybe he isn’t the best with money. \u00a0Maybe he hasn’t been the best role model to your children. But even so, YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT HIM! \u00a0You can resolve to be a better encourager. \u00a0You can become better at affirming him, supporting him, and respecting him. \u00a0If this is an area that you struggle with, seek counseling from your Pastor, or a Christian Counselor to help re-establish this trust and confidence in him, and to become more of his cheerleader than someone who constantly puts him down.<\/p>\n
You are the helpmeet God created for your husband. \u00a0God created YOU to be the one who shows respect, love, honor and encouragement to your husband. \u00a0If this doesn’t come easy for you in your own marriage, then seek God for His wisdom and direction. Ask God into your marriage if He isn’t a part of it already. \u00a0Pray for your husband. \u00a0Ask God to help him in the areas that he is weak, or needs wisdom. \u00a0PRAYER WORKS Ladies! \u00a0Prayer works MUCH BETTER than nagging does, any day of the week!! \u00a0\ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
These ladies on last nights conference call shared much wisdom with us. \u00a0After 30+ years of marriage, they still go out on dates. \u00a0They still hold hands. \u00a0He still opens the door for her. \u00a0He still puts his arm around her when they sit together. \u00a0They still laugh together. \u00a0They pray together. \u00a0They trust each other. \u00a0 They both respect their husbands.<\/p>\n
What can you do today, right now, to start showing your husband the respect and honor that he so strongly desires? \u00a0To feel like a real man? \u00a0I want to reiterate what Priscilla shared in this chapter on how you can start making the necessary changes to fulfill your husband….today:<\/p>\n
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- Start with just one day. \u00a024 hours.<\/li>\n
- REFUSE to allow yourself to correct him, or offer any unsolicited advice, or criticize his choices.<\/li>\n
- Go to the restaurant HE wants.<\/li>\n
- Let the kids wear the clothes HE picked out, even if they don’t match!!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Here a few of my own:<\/p>\n
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- Don’t criticize his driving.<\/li>\n
- ASK for his opinion and then listen to it!<\/li>\n
- Don’t put down his family in front of others.<\/li>\n
- Don’t disrespect him at home, or in front of others; especially in front of the children!<\/li>\n
- Have a good meal on the table when he gets home.<\/li>\n
- Thank him for being a hard worker and taking care of the family financially.<\/li>\n
- Thank him for being such a good dad.<\/li>\n
- Tell him what a great lover he is.<\/li>\n
- Tell him what a great husband he is.<\/li>\n
- Tell him how handsome he is.<\/li>\n
- Tell him you love him every single day.<\/li>\n
- Kiss him hello and goodbye, every day.<\/li>\n
- Tell him how proud you are to be his wife.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
These are just few suggestions. \u00a0I know there are plenty of books and online sites that are great tools to use to find ways to encourage your husband. \u00a0Focus on the Family has some great articles on this subject!! \u00a0Take the time to look it up, and then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! \u00a0\ud83d\ude42 \u00a0I know without a doubt your husband will appreciate it, and you will begin to see changes in him that are for the better! And that’s a promise!<\/p>\n
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Let’s Pray:<\/strong><\/p>\n
Father, thank You so much for the husband You have given each one of us. \u00a0Help us to be the kind of wife that he needs every day. \u00a0Help us to be the perfect helpmeet that You created us to be. \u00a0In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!<\/p>\n
Your Assignment:<\/strong><\/p>\n
In the comment section below, list 3 things that you LOVE about your husband, and then tonight when you are alone with him, tell him exactly what you have shared here. \u00a0I KNOW he will appreciate it!!<\/p>\n
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Be blessed!<\/p>\n
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