{"id":10355,"date":"2013-03-13T00:01:59","date_gmt":"2013-03-13T04:01:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/?p=10355"},"modified":"2013-03-12T23:33:19","modified_gmt":"2013-03-13T03:33:19","slug":"to-mother-through-my-sister-my-friend-pages-176-181","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/2013\/03\/13\/to-mother-through-my-sister-my-friend-pages-176-181\/","title":{"rendered":"Captivating:  Chapter 10 &#8211; \u201cTo Mother\u201d &#8211; \u201cMy Sister, My Friend\u201d (pgs 176-181)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>So, if you don\u2019t already know, I\u2019m single.\u00a0 I\u2019ve never been married, and I don\u2019t have any children.\u00a0 Furthermore, if you know me at all, you know that little kids fascinate me.\u00a0 I\u2019m one of those creepy people who will stare at your kids just because they always put a smile on my face.\u00a0 Nothing brings me more joy than when I wave to a little baby and get a great big smile in return.\u00a0 Children are life in its most simple, pure, and innocent form.<\/p>\n<p>Deep down, beyond all the outward fascination, I struggle with jealousy.\u00a0 Oftentimes, I watch a mother take her toddler\u2019s hand to \u201cgo find a book to read before bed tonight,\u201d and I get jealous.\u00a0 I want that.\u00a0 I want to take a little mini-me and read bedtime stories to her.\u00a0 I want to watch my son play baseball or score his first goal playing soccer.\u00a0 I want to get lost in an imaginary world, dress up like a superhero and fly around my living room with my little ones. I want to listen as they try to pronounce words like \u201cpopsicle\u201d and \u201cspaghetti.\u201d I want to snuggle with my baby as she falls asleep in my arms.\u00a0 I want to mother.<\/p>\n<p>When I find the jealousy creeping in, I have to turn it over to God.\u00a0 He\u2019s faithful, He knows these desires of mine, and I know He will give them to me in His time.\u00a0 And when it is my turn to mother, I want to\u00a0encourage my children to live a life from their heart, as our authors state.\u00a0 I want to encourage them to be the person God has created them to be&#8212;nothing more, nothing less.<\/p>\n<p>But, even if you don\u2019t have children of your own, you do have opportunities to mother not only other people\u2019s children, but other people in general.\u00a0 All you have to do is care about someone, offer a listening ear to that person, and encourage him or her to simply be who God created them to be.\u00a0 Let the following passage from Philippians resonate in your hearts:<\/p>\n<p><i>\u201cSo if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.\u201d \u00a0<\/i><strong>Phillipians 2:1-4 ESV<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Count others more significant than yourself? Really? I mean, who <i>does<\/i> that?<\/p>\n<p>Mothers. Mothers do that.\u00a0 Or, at least they should do that.\u00a0 If you haven\u2019t had a mother who sacrificed and loved you the way she should have, I\u2019m sorry.\u00a0 But there is Someone who has filled her role. There is Someone who counts you more than He counts Himself.\u00a0 There\u2019s Someone who died to save you from your sin so that you can live forever with Him in Heaven.\u00a0 That Person is Jesus, and He loves you unconditionally. \u00a0I love this quote by Jerry Bridges, a notable Christian author.\u00a0 It reminds me of a mother\u2019s love for her children:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">\u201cGod\u2019s unfailing love for us is an objective fact affirmed over and over in the Scriptures. It is true whether we believe it or not. Our doubts do not destroy God\u2019s love, nor does our faith create it. It originates in the very nature of God, who is love, and it flows to us through our union with His beloved Son.\u201d &#8212; Jerry Bridges, Christian author<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Right in suit with caring more about others than yourself falls our friendships with other women.\u00a0 Do you have those? How are they? Can you think of a girlfriend who you know would be there for you if you needed someone to talk to, cry to, receive godly advice from, or just goof around with? If you don\u2019t have a friend like that, I encourage you to seek one.\u00a0 My mother told me that when I was a toddler, she didn\u2019t have many girlfriends.\u00a0 When I entered preschool, she had been praying for a good friend to come into her life.\u00a0 God was faithful! Through a fun course of events, He placed another family into my family\u2019s life, and our friendship continues to this day.\u00a0 Not only did we gain a friendship, but this family led my family closer to God.\u00a0 Our faith was strengthened through that friendship.<\/p>\n<p>Do you have a friend who causes your relationship with God to deepen?\u00a0 Does she encourage you to grow and walk closer with Him daily?\u00a0 If not, I pray you seek, invest, and spend time with godly women in your church, Bible study, or even with this group online! \u00a0Proverbs 27:17 reminds us that &#8220;iron sharpens iron.&#8221; \u00a0Do you have an \u201ciron\u201d friend in your life? Friendship with like-minded women is crucial to your spiritual growth, and I\u2019ve seen it create accountability and a safe place in my own life.\u00a0 If you already have your \u201ciron\u201d friend or two, then don\u2019t forget to nurture those friendships with love and attention.<\/p>\n<p>Praise Him!<\/p>\n<p>Carissa<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">**********<\/p>\n<p><strong>Let\u2019s Pray:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Heavenly Father, thank You for our innate desires to mother, care for, and encourage those in our lives.\u00a0 I pray that we will apply these desires in the lives of our children, future families, marriage, friendships, and even acquaintances.\u00a0 I pray that Your love that dwells in each of us will overflow to those around us.\u00a0 Father, thank You for the gift of girlfriends and friendships.\u00a0 Lord, I pray that our friendships will grow as we all seek to know You and serve You better each and every day.\u00a0 In your Holy Name we pray, Amen.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;\">Your Assignment:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Do you like kids as much as I do? I can\u2019t be the only creeper out there! What does your heart desire with regard to children and a family?\u00a0 Do you feel the desire to \u201cmother\u201d as our authors discuss? \u00a0 In the past, what has held you back from forming friendships with other women? How do you plan on changing that for the future?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">**********<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/02\/GWS.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-9918\" alt=\"GWS\" src=\"http:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/02\/GWS-212x300.jpg\" width=\"212\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/02\/GWS-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/02\/GWS.jpg 234w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 212px) 100vw, 212px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ac0b38;\">Our next Women&#8217;s Online Bible\/Book study begins March 24th. \u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ac0b38;\">To sign up for this amazing study, click on the picture above, complete the registration form, and we will email you further details. \u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ac0b38;\">We hope you will join us.<\/span><\/h3>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So, if you don\u2019t already know, I\u2019m single.\u00a0 I\u2019ve never been married, and I don\u2019t have any children.\u00a0 Furthermore, if you know me at all, you know that little kids fascinate me.\u00a0 I\u2019m one of those creepy people who will stare at your kids just because they always put a smile on my face.\u00a0 Nothing [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":28,"featured_media":9918,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[20],"tags":[181,182,201,393,2022,425,1985,2023,2026,2025,571,1986,2019,2021,2020,1465,2024,965,972,1009],"class_list":["post-10355","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-singles","tag-captivating","tag-carissa-markantone","tag-children","tag-friends","tag-girlfriends","tag-girlfriends-coffee-hour","tag-girls-with-swords","tag-gods-unfailing-love","tag-iron-sharpens-iron","tag-jerry-bridges","tag-john-eldredge","tag-lisa-bevere","tag-married","tag-mothers","tag-philippians-21-4","tag-proverbs-2717","tag-scriptures","tag-single","tag-sisters","tag-stasi-eldredge","entry"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/02\/GWS.jpg","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p39pHp-2H1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10355","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/28"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10355"}],"version-history":[{"count":12,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10355\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10366,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10355\/revisions\/10366"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9918"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10355"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10355"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/girlfriendscoffeehour.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10355"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}