This is one of those chapters where if I happened to meet with John and Stasi, I would thank them for including this topic.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s so easy for us as women to blame the men in our lives for the pain that they have caused us over the years without knowing that they, like us, carry the same wounds. Such blame comes because we have not really gone to the basics to find out why men act the way they do.\u00a0 It\u2019s only when we understand the issues at play that we will begin to address our hurt. \u00a0\u00a0The truth of the matter is that both men and women have wounds that date back to the time of Adam and Eve and, should we fail to address them, every generation will go through the same things.<\/p>\n
There are so many misconceptions about masculinity that we have believed and embraced.\u00a0 However, looking at our topic today, we can put some of those lies to rest.\u00a0 Men just like women HURT and as much as they don\u2019t always show this side to us, deep inside they carry childhood wounds.\u00a0 They may act macho and have an \u201cI don\u2019t care\u201d attitude, but they too have been hurt by their fathers who were also struggling with the same issues and did not know how to reach out to their sons.<\/p>\n
How do we expect little boys who have grown up being told that \u201cboys don\u2019t cry, it shows\u00a0weakness\u201d to understand and comfort a woman when she is hurt and needs emotional support?\u00a0 How will such a man relate to you when you want answers to these questions:\u00a0 \u201cWhy won\u2019t he talk to me? Why won\u2019t he commit?\u00a0 Why is he so angry? Why is he violent?\u201d<\/b>\u00a0 The truth of the matter is the boy in him sees this type of emotion as weakness and probably thinks you are needy.<\/p>\n
John and Stasi tell us that we won\u2019t begin to understand a man until we understand his Question, his wound and how Adam also fell.\u00a0 His search for validation is the driving force of his life.\u00a0 The question that boggles a man\u2019s mind is \u201cDo I have what it takes? Am I the real deal?\u00a0 Am I a man?\u201d<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
We may love the men in our lives with everything we have got but we cannot answer this question for them.\u00a0 This validation of a man’s soul only comes from knowing\u00a0who he\u00a0is in Christ<\/em>.\u00a0 In the same way, a man cannot fill the void that is inside our hearts no matter how much he declares his love for us.\u00a0 ONLY GOD CAN<\/em>.<\/b><\/p>\n Let us allow this chapter to help us heal the wounds that have been inflicted on both men and women.\u00a0 Let us open our hearts and minds to allow God to validate our souls.\u00a0 Only God can restore our beauty as women and strength to the men who we love and cannot live without.<\/p>\n Our understanding of this topic will help us build loving relationships and help heal the hurt that we have inflicted on one another because of lack of knowledge.\u00a0 The bible says in Hosea 4:6\u00a0\u201cMy people perish because of lack of knowledge….\u201d\u00a0 When I understand what my husband or a boyfriend went through while growing up, it will help me understand why he acts the way he does with me. \u00a0Then it’s my job to pray for him, not try to fix him!<\/p>\n Our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ went through Calvary in order to restore the relationship that we had with our Heavenly Father.\u00a0 At Calvary, Jesus bore our\u00a0sins, including all the misconceptions\u00a0that are there\u00a0between men and women.\u00a0 When He created us as male and female, He did not create us to inflict pain on one another but to love one another, enjoy one another and be One.\u00a0 However, it is because of the Fall that we were cursed and have to endure the pain and suffering of this fallen world.\u00a0 Jesus\u2019 death and resurrection was vital for man\u2019s existence because it validates our existence and answers the questions that He alone can answer.\u00a0 It is through their\u00a0relationship with Jesus Christ that men and women can truly love another and live in harmony.\u00a0 I pray that this study will continue to draw us near to Him and, that through Him, we will embrace the relationships that we have with one another.<\/p>\n **********<\/p>\n LET\u2019S PRAY:<\/strong><\/p>\n Father, thank You so much for all that You did for us at Calvary through Jesus Christ.\u00a0\u00a0His death gives us purpose and validates our existence on this earth.\u00a0 It is only when we know You that we can embrace who we are and are able to truly love one another.\u00a0 Restore in us that which was stolen when Adam and Eve fell. \u00a0In Jesus’ Name, Amen.<\/p>\n YOUR ASSIGNMENT:<\/strong><\/p>\n Ask Jesus to show you what you\u2019ve been doing with your Question and how you have related to Adam.<\/p>\n **********<\/p>\n If you are interested in sending Jackie a private message in regards to this blog, please email her at: Jackie@GirlfriendsCoffeeHour.com<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" This is one of those chapters where if I happened to meet with John and Stasi, I would thank them for including this topic. 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