When I was younger I liked guys all of the time, but I never dated any of them. In fact they never knew I liked them and it was ok because they never liked me. Anytime I would talk about guys and my dad would over hear he would say, “Is he a Christian?” I used to get so annoyed with my dad for throwing in that comment any time I would talk about something as simple as a crush on the cute guy with a pretty smile in my math class. Only after I started dating someone who was most certainly not a Christian did I wish I would have listened to the advice my dad had given me on dating years prior.
As a teenager it is so hard to truly want to listen to your parents. You hear what they say, but you want to figure things out for your own. You want to take risks; they want to stop you from that type of behavior. You want to try new things; they want to tell you not to because they have been there done that and you just should not be doing certain things. Even though we cannot see it at the time, our parents are stopping us from things because they love us. They do not want to see us make mistakes. I know I wish I would have listened to my parents more than I did.
I know the feeling you get when you find out a guy likes you. I know how good attention from guys can feel. There is one feeling that is way beyond what those ones may feel like: the love God has for you. Do you know how good that feels? If you do not know, I highly suggest that you spend some time getting to know God so you can find out first hand just how amazing it is! When we truly know God’s love for us, it will make us want to find the man God has for us and not settle for any guy that thinks we are pretty or who gives us attention from time to time.
Have you ever thought about what you want in a man? Have you ever thought about what a relationship should be like? Try writing down a list of qualities that you would like in a man. (See page 105 and 2 Corinthians 7:1)Keep that list and pray about it to God. When you are in a relationship ask yourself, honestly, does this relationship bring you closer to God or pull you away from Him? If you hold out for a man who has the qualities you have been praying for- chances are you will grow closer and closer to God together! Any relationship that brings you closer to God is definitely a good one to have.
Personally, I struggled with dating. I never thought that there were men out there that would be what I wanted (someone who loves God, goes to church, reads the Bible, is kind to others, and will love me as Christ wants someone to love me). So, as my high school years came and gone, I decided that I needed to change my standards. I ended up settling for an older man who was not a Christian. GIRLS, this was the biggest mistake I have ever made. I ended up stuck in an abusive relationship. I KNOW now that waiting for the man God has for us-a good guy who is devoted to God will come our way! God will bring you together in His timing. It is so important to hold out for that man. And the best part is while you wait-you have the opportunity to grow closer to God and experience so much of the perfect love He has for you!
Please remember that you are not defined by what guys say or by how they make you feel, if you are getting attention from them, or getting no attention at all. The only thing you are defined by is the love Jesus has for YOU! You have the privilege to CHOOSE the man you go on a date with. Make sure you make God apart of your choosing process. Praying to Him to lead you to the right man will save you from heartache and the pain of dating the wrong one!
Lord, I thank you so much that you love us with unconditional love that no man will ever be able to replace. I love that you have handpicked a man for us if that is your will in our lives. I pray that these girls and I are able to hold out for this man. I pray that we never settle for less than the best you have for us. As these girls start to date, I pray that they choose wisely the men they bring into their lives. May they seek you in each decision they make. We love you so much and thank you for guarding our hearts. AMEN!
Much Love to YOU all,
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