Daddies. I have come to find that this can be a tough topic for many women. Some have had wonderful doting fathers that made them feel like princesses. More often than not our dads have fallen short in some way, and sometimes not intentionally. Some work to provide and give their family as much as possible, but leave us emotionally void, never saying “I love you” or knowing we are cherished. Some say all the right things, but their actions do not show love or respect for their family. And unfortunately there are fathers that take advantage of their position in the family and violate their daughters in ways that no girl should have to experience. What is wonderful though is that no matter what your experience with your dad, you have a Heavenly Father that loves you and cares about you more than any human father can, no matter how amazing they are!
I, like Stasi, have heard many times that we view God through the lenses we view our own fathers. I can definitely see the validity in that, and I have seen women who definitely do that, but I don’t know if that is necessarily true for everyone. For me, my dad was one of those dads that worked very hard to provide for our family. I also knew that he was always in my corner. But he was not someone who made me feel cherished, or like his little princess. “I love you” was rarely verbalized in our house, and there was no “twirling around” in dresses or cuddling up in his lap that I can ever remember. Despite that, I put my daddy on a pedestal and thought he could do no wrong.
To this day, I have very similar feelings. But my view of God was just the opposite. I thought of him as the “punishing God” just waiting for me to mess up. Someone to be afraid of, and who would never “be in my corner” or provide for me. So I viewed my Heavenly Father much differently than how I viewed my earthly father. I think it was more about the faith I was raised in, rather than my dad. I don’t think I ever heard God referred to as a father, except in prayers I was given to memorize, and even then it just seemed like words and not an actual relationship.
But praise Him that I know the truth now. I know who He is. He is my Daddy, my Papa, my ABBA Father. I can snuggle up in His lap whenever I want, and He welcomes it. I can talk to Him about anything and everything and He listens like I am the only person in the world. I can ask Him, “Do you love me? Am I beautiful and captivating?” and His answer will always be yes. Isn’t that amazing? What a loving God we serve. Do you believe this for yourself? Are you still working to earn His love? Rest easy sisters, there is nothing you can do to make Him love you any more or any less than He does right this minute.
A line in this chapter really stood out to me, “What if you have a genuine and captivating beauty that is marred only by your striving”. Wow. That stung a bit, and I definitely saw myself in that comment. I know God loves me, right now, where I’m at, human and stumbling. He does, and He loves you too. So why do I still try to earn His love in so many ways? I tend to try too hard in all relationships, tend to overthink every issue I face, put too much energy into pretending that everything is fine, try to do more and more for God through ministry or studies or any other number of things. I am striving. And I am holding myself back. I am learning that is isn’t about “doing for” God, it is about “being with” God. I take comfort in that. I need to sit in His lap more and listen. I need to embrace His love. I need my Daddy. How about you?
Lord we come humbly to You today. Father, we need Your love. Come to the core of our hearts, come and bring Your love for us. Help us to know You for who You really are, and perhaps not as we see our earthly fathers. Reveal yourself to us. Reveal Your love for us. Show us what we mean to You. Come and father us, we need You Daddy. In Your Heavenly Name we pray. Amen.
Part of the reason women are so tired is because we are spending so much energy “striving”. So much energy devoted to suppressing issues and keeping a good appearance. We want to give you permission to relax. Rest in the security of the Lord’s love. Let it go sweet sister! How does the thought of giving up all that struggling make you feel?